Smoke Gets in Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematorium is 99p on Amazon for a kindle to-day . It gets rave reviews.
I read a post recently about someone carrying around ashes to all different places and was reminded of this when I read on facebook someone who had three lots of ashes in her house. She said on special occasions she decorated them with hats etc. and was happy to do so.
Large flowerbed - starting again