As most of you know, our DD died in May. Her two DSs are still living next door to us on the same property but they will be moving on with their lives soon. The elder lad is going to Hendon Police College and the younger one will be moving back to Northern Ireland to live with his father and step mother as he has been set up with a job in Belfast.
We've all been supporting eachother during the grieving process and there have been many ups and downs - particularly with the elder one's temper (usually aimed at me) but it's our cat's behaviour I have found quite distressing.
DD loved her and as soon as Jazz heard her voice she would leap off whichever cushion or widow sill she was dozing on and charge across furniture and worktops to greet her. She has a very loud purr and it would make us all laugh when she seemed to run out of steam and would have to drop down to a lower gear and start again.
In the last couple of weeks Jazz has no longer charged in through the back door demanding breakfast as soon as she knows we're up. Concerned, I go and look for her as she's getting on for twelve and I find her at the top of the path with her eyes fixed on DD's kitchen window. She would often jump on the windowsill and tap on the window to be let in for a cuddle. She's fine when I pick her up and bring her back with us but later on in the day she asks to be let out and curls up on the gravel drive, even on very hot days. This is something she has never ever done and then it dawned on me....It's where DD parked her car.
I suppose it's to be expected that animals grieve. They're more perceptible than us after all so I should have cottoned on sooner but it's easy to overlook these things when you have a lot to cope with.
She'll be fine. We all will.
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