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Bereavement

Late husband's hoard

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Beechnut Mon 02-Sept-19 11:21:44

Yes to a certain extent TillyWhiz. The garage was kept tidy after we bought some cupboards. The shed was a different tale though. I had help sorting it out and deciding what I wanted to keep for my own use. I have been working in there this weekend and after a mooch looking for something else found some bent pieces of metal that I could do with for shelf making so I said “ Ooh thank you love “.

Luckygirl Mon 02-Sept-19 11:12:25

Sorry to hear of your bereavement Tilly - as far as OH's stored bits and pieces I am in a similar situation. MY OH is still with us but very disabled and unable to make use of so many things that he has accumulated over the years.

The sons-in-law have helped me to clear the garage and have taken away - for their own use, not for the tip - a whole heap of tools and electric gardening equipment. Also his electric bike. His hobby was electronics and I have had to decommission a whole lot of stuff from his home cinema in order to create a room for the live-in carer.

It felt very sad disposing of all this stuff that once meant so much to him; but there is no point in it sitting unused in the garage. I have told him what I have done, as he is virtually confined to bed/chair now so could not see what I was doing. He is resigned to it.

Urmstongran Mon 02-Sept-19 11:05:56

I read somewhere that expensive cars sit on the drive whilst junk sits in the garage. It does seem daft.

Pantglas1 Mon 02-Sept-19 11:03:54

I think this is generational TillyWhiz. My father grew up during WWII and throws nothing away- I dread having to clear out his bungalow when he goes. However DH does have a clear out occasionally so the shed/garage aren’t so bad - at the moment!

TillyWhiz Mon 02-Sept-19 10:57:49

I am clearing out our garage after DH died 6 months ago. I was allowed to sweep it (at my insistence) occasionally but he hated me "poking around" in there. We have not been able to put the car in it for some years. As a hint, I put a bin in there but it never had much placed in it. Now I have nearly filled a small skip! It has made me feel so depressed and tearful at the sheer and utter useless junk I am finding which he kept "just in case it would be useful" ie to save money. Have others had this?