Lighting a candle

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I lit my candle and DH and I shared memories of our losses. It used to be something one didn't talk about, so glad now it is better understood. I hope all who shared our losses gained some comfort from knowing others were lighting their candles at the same time. We did.

Thanks Maw - I've only just read this thread and counted the number of babies lost in my family and in close friendships. It's a timely reminder for which thank you xx

ga, that's very similar to my experience except we knew my baby had died but the consultant was in Australia for a month.

It is really traumatic meeting people ho know you are pregnant and still looking pregnant who ask how you are doing.

Added to which I occasionally worked as receptionist for dh!

Thank you to everyone sharing their stories - GN at it's very best.

grannyactivist

The actual time has passed, being gone 7pm, but I will light 3 candles in my heart.

Sending love to all who are lighting candles today.

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? My baby, lost in January 1977. I was living alone in Germany as my (then) husband was serving in Northern Ireland and my older children were fostered out during my hospital admission.

I was admitted to hospital a couple of weeks before Christmas following heavy bleeding. The doctors eventually told me the pregnancy was 'probably' not viable following heavy blood loss, but pregnancy tests still came back positive. Because I refused to allow them to give me a D&C until I had a negative test I was discharged on Christmas Eve as a 'difficult' patient. Two weeks later, following a negative test my GP told me the baby had died in utero, but I was refused a D&C by the hospital until the baby began to spontaneously abort four weeks later. Carrying a dead baby for so many weeks and still looking pregnant was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life, but I have never regretted giving my baby the chance of life.

Thinking of all the lost little souls and their broken-hearted families. x

Didn’t know about this but just will add I’ll think of baby son I had terminated half way into pregnancy due to severe chromosomal abnormalities. Following year we had my lovely youngest daughter.

For my sibling who arrived to early, my babies who I couldn’t hold in my womb long enough to give them a chance and our 2 GC who we never got to meet

Thank you all for sharing your sadness.It is very humbling.

? ? ? ? one for a brother I never knew and 3 for grandchildren we never knew. Thank you maw

Remembering the baby I miscarried in 1976, and my two lost grandsons. Thinking of all of you who have experienced these saddest of tragedies.

?for everyone who has suffered in this way

? for my very dear friends baby boy born asleep. Remembered and loved for 45 years

My daughter cheryl 15.09.78-03.11.78
Severely brain injured at birth.

for all who have been touched by this same sorrow.

? for all x

I will light one for our only daughter , stillborn in Nov 1985. Thinking of all others with similar sad losses.

Thank you Maw. I have never suffered the sadness expressed in the previous posts. But I remember a young woman I was in hospital with who had lost her baby. I will light a candle tonight.
It is quite a sad story so I hope it is not inappropriate on this thread.
In the 1970 I was in hospital for a hysterectomy. It was a woman's surgical ward and, girls having abortions, girls who had lost babies and hysterectomies were all lumped together in the same ward. One evening, after dinner one,very sad pale girl asked if she could sing us a song. She sang 'My baby has gone down the plug hole ' It was absolutely heartbreaking and I remember it all very well. I have tears in my eyes even now.
I shall light a candle for that baby and with the hope that its mother went on to have another child

I'll light one for the baby that I lost and one for the baby that my DiL miscarried. Loved, nonetheless.

For my dd's 2nd child miscarried and for all who have suffered the lost of a baby or child.

? for DD's twin whom we lost at 15 wks. pregnant.

? for the baby she miscarried.

Love and thoughts to all those affected by this.