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Bereavement

Loss of adult son

(66 Posts)
Juniewoonie Sun 17-Dec-23 08:40:59

I’m a widow and three weeks ago lost my only adult son. It was only ten short days from diagnosis to death from adrenal cancer. I’m absolutely broken! How on earth do I go on? He was my comfort and joy. He was only 30 years old. He has left a void in my life that I don’t think I can ever recover from. Never to love or be loved again.

silverlining48 Sat 06-Jan-24 18:20:10

Junie I am still thinking of you. There are a number of grans here who have lost adult children, a terrible thing, but you are not alone. Hope you are ok, take care.
A day at a time, flowers

Tenko Sat 06-Jan-24 17:42:14

Junie I’m so sorry to hear your tragic news about your son. Thinking of you and sending deepest sympathy 💐

BrightandBreezy Sat 06-Jan-24 17:31:05

Heartfelt sympathy to you Junie in your tragic loss.

Grandyma Sat 06-Jan-24 16:49:45

I have no words to comfort you but you are in my thoughts 💐

Cabbie21 Sat 06-Jan-24 16:48:15

I am so sorry for your loss. I missed this back in December. I don’t know how I would have coped without my son after my husband died last year. I wonder how you are managing, Junie? I hope you have some support.

Celieanne86 Sat 06-Jan-24 16:37:28

Dear Junie as the mother of adult sons my heart goes out to you at this terrible time, I can hardly begin to imagine what you are going through. It’s only words but I send you my most sincere and deepest sympathy and pray you find the strength to get through the days ahead. 💜

grannybuy Sat 06-Jan-24 16:30:50

Thinking of you at this very heartbreaking time.

Franbern Sat 06-Jan-24 16:23:31

Junie, nothing anyone can say or do is going to take away your total devastation at the moment. But time....- a lot of time does slowly help. My youngest child died at the age of 25, a dreadful accident - no chances to even say our goodbyes. This was 22 years ago, but I still talk to him so much and have photos of him all around my flat. I am fortunate in that there were other children and since then, g.children.

Nothing ever replaces the loss of a child. However, in that deepest of grief, I knew that the last thing he would have wanted was for me to waste the rest of my life in grief. I have to live for both of us.

It will be two years or more before you can really start to get past this,, Take your time, be kind to yourself, talk to everyone and anyone about your son.

There are some wonderful grief groups out there, use them and anyone amongst your family and friends who give any support.

JaneJudge Wed 03-Jan-24 19:37:32

I'm sorry Junie flowers what a cruel thing to happen x

Fartooold Wed 03-Jan-24 19:35:11

Sorry auto correct Junie

Fartooold Wed 03-Jan-24 19:34:21

Juno’s, I know how you feel, I too am a widow my lovely husband died 18 months ago and my son in September both of cancer. Life is intolerable but I have 3 adopted “children” special needs to keep me focused.
My heart goes out to you, stay strong and take care of yourself xx

Norah Tue 26-Dec-23 19:48:54

I am so sorry. flowers

Perhaps Church has a bereavement group of some sort?

Do seek out some help.

Chrissielou Tue 26-Dec-23 19:48:05

Because there are simply no words to bring you comfort, I want to say I'm thinking of you at this terrible time.

Baggs Tue 26-Dec-23 19:35:39

Oh, Junie, you must still be in a state of shock. I hope you have someone to comfort you a little flowers.

Oldbat1 Tue 26-Dec-23 19:28:56

I am really sorry about your son.

LauraNorderr Tue 26-Dec-23 18:43:11

Oh Junie, I’m so very sorry for your loss, I can’t begin to imagine your pain, my heart goes out to you.

Cath9 Tue 26-Dec-23 18:32:36

I am sure you must be feeling lost.
Have you any close siblings living near by? Other than this do get in touch with a bereavement councillor.
There is a lady who lives in my road who has lost two husbands due to cancer and a son who was about the same age as your son, so you are not alone. Do get help

Greenfinch Mon 18-Dec-23 12:22:17

Another one who is thinking of you Junie

Allsorts Mon 18-Dec-23 07:51:52

Juniewoonie, I am so dreadfully sorry. Your heart is broken just take one day at a time, be kind to yourself and I do hope you have people round you to put their arms round you. This forum is here for you. That close bond and happiness you shared for 30 years will sustain you, he will always be in your heart, just a heartbeat away.💐.

luluaugust Mon 18-Dec-23 07:44:13

So very sorry Junie

Marg75 Mon 18-Dec-23 07:06:55

Junie, there are no words really, except to offer you love and to know that you are in all of our thoughts.

nadateturbe Mon 18-Dec-23 07:03:48

So very sorry junie.
Know that we are all thinking of you. x

mumofmadboys Mon 18-Dec-23 06:59:51

Thinking of you xx

cornergran Mon 18-Dec-23 06:45:53

Sending love junie, I can find no words that are adequate. So, so sorry.

V3ra Mon 18-Dec-23 01:17:16

Juniewoonie that's just an awful thing to have happened. You must be in a state of complete shock.
I hope you are getting support from your own doctor xx