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First Christmas as a widow- I got through the day

(78 Posts)
Calendargirl Thu 26-Dec-24 11:33:45

Well done, you can feel very proud of yourself.

I hope you enjoy your break, if that’s the right word.

flowers

MissAdventure Thu 26-Dec-24 11:33:06

You got through it, so well done.
Just my perspective, but I think if you ache for someone every single day, well, christmas is just more of the same.

I have struggled more this year, though, so yet again grief throws up some surprises.

I'm so glad to hear you managed, and you're away soon.

BA69 Thu 26-Dec-24 11:23:48

Well, it's all over for another year as my mum used to say. I had what you may call an alternative Christmas this year. I did try to have a lie in but woke up at 6am and that was it, what a long day. I tried my best to have a "normal" day, just a simple meal cooked in the air fryer, and I listened to music on Youtube nearly all day, not Christmas music, I had Meatloaf and Queen and Irish music blaring out (my neighbours were away) It did help but I couldn't help thinking about what I was doing with my husband this time last year and then the tears came. I wanted to be on my own though, to be honest needed that time to reflect, I do feel a sense of relief now it is over. Anyway I am going on my Twixmas Break tomorrow until Monday, bit nervous but I know I need to do it I have to get out of this rut I am in. If it works out I will consider it for Christmas period next year.