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Signs/messages after a person passes away

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hamster58 Mon 12-Jan-26 09:01:20

Does anyone feel that after someone in your world has gone that sometimes you get ‘messages’ from them. I don’t mean hearing their voice but rather things that happen that instantly make you feel like it’s a communication from them? Any examples would be interesting to hear…

Bellab Tue 10-Feb-26 18:07:28

When my Husband died ,I had two wagtails appear in the garden,never seen them before. They have been here everyday since. I talk to them now!

nanna8 Wed 14-Jan-26 22:58:13

It’s a lovely thread ,isn’t it ? I never believed in ghosts or anything like that until I actually saw a very young man in our house who had recently died. My daughter also saw him. He just looked real and then disappeared, not scary or anything. Never seen anything like it before or since. Anyway, I now have a completely open mind about such things.

Toetoe Wed 14-Jan-26 22:01:13

I'm loving this thread. So wish there was a like button

Etoile2701 Wed 14-Jan-26 19:06:54

I had a very similar experience when my mother died. It gave me much comfort.

Retread Wed 14-Jan-26 19:06:42

My sister lives in a different country from me and went through an extremely difficult personal time after her son died, whilst at the same time experiencing serious health problems herself. I was sad and frustrated that I couldn't be with her to help her.

She made acquaintance with a woman through a casual introduction by a friend. This woman became a wonderful friend and support to my sister when it was badly needed, going out of her way and asked for nothing in return.

My sister was telling me about this woman in a phone call, and I asked "What is her name?" This "Earth Angel" has my late mother's name (an uncommon first name). Heaven sent.

Cadenza123 Wed 14-Jan-26 18:27:50

I lost a ring my husband had made for my birthday. Looked everywhere. Couldn't bring myself to tell him as he was ill, couldn't replace as it was unique. My husband died and low and behold days before my birthday the ring turned up, somewhere I had looked several times. It felt like a present from him. While I don't actually believe it, this is my experience.

Oreo Wed 14-Jan-26 18:18:02

Nannee49

Totally agree JOJO60 I'm very open minded as to undiscovered or yet to be rediscovered knowledge or energies.
We can't explain many things with absolute certainty either for or against, I'm fascinated by the science which digs deeper to try.

Me too 😃

Labradora Wed 14-Jan-26 15:57:08

When I was admiring the first-born daughter of my ( then very) adult stepdaughter, astonishingly I saw almost the face and expression ( a particular impish grin and twinkling eye) of the child's paternal grandfather.
The child is a girl, not a boy, obviously and did not and does not actually look like him.
I was not " looking for" this " manifestation" for want of a better word , certainly did not expect it and found the whole experience really weird.
I liked but was not particularly emotionally involved with/attached to either the mother or the child. I was familiar with the grandfather who I'd seen reasonably regularly for about 10 years.He , again, I liked but was not deeply attached to.
My late father and mother and one very dear late friend all of whom I was very deeply attached to have never revisited me in any way after their deaths.
Spooky? Literally hadnothing to gain from this experience.

Sweetpea60 Wed 14-Jan-26 14:32:16

My mum died 3 years ago , I was unable to see her before she passed.her favourite flowers were yellow roses she had them in her wedding bouquet. 3 weeks after she passed my home shopping was delivered as usual but right on the top of the first container was half a dozen yellow roses.i hadn't ordered them I have never ordered flowers. So I like to think it was a sign from her

Nannee49 Wed 14-Jan-26 14:22:14

Totally agree JOJO60 I'm very open minded as to undiscovered or yet to be rediscovered knowledge or energies.
We can't explain many things with absolute certainty either for or against, I'm fascinated by the science which digs deeper to try.

JOJO60 Wed 14-Jan-26 13:57:40

Shortly after my son died, 3 years ago, I started receiving messages from him. He studied electrical engineering so it makes sense to me that he would use electricity to contact me. First, a lamp in my lounge (not a touch lamp) switched on and off. It still has the same bulb in and still works perfectly. I have 4 other lamps in my lounge and they didn't flicker so it was not a surge in power. My husband said the same thing happened to him in our garage where he was working. There are 4 lights in there but only the one over his work bench turned on and off. The next day the aerial plug in the back of the TV flew out. Neither of us goes into the corner behind the TV so it should not have been loose. There are a lot of things we don't understand, but science has proven that matter/ energy cannot be created or destroyed - it just changes from one state to another. I am a very logical person and I read lots of scientific articles and one day science will prove what happens after we die. Having an open mind allows us to receive messages from people who have passed over. Having a closed mind blocks them out.

stanlaw Wed 14-Jan-26 13:55:14

slightly off piste but my much beloved elderly cat was put to sleep about 18 months ago and two days later we were sitting at home on the first floor (well away from the garden where we get no butterflies either) and an enormous butterfly flew directly to the window and banged against it three times before flying away uninjured. No butterflies ever seen there before or since.

Etoile2701 Wed 14-Jan-26 11:32:06

My mother passed away in late October 2003. It was sudden and unexpected, although she had a heart condition and diabetes. A few days after she passed I saw a white butterfly. I had heard that butterflies can be symbolic following a death, but I remember thinking that if it had been a red admiral butterfly it would signify that she was okay. At her funeral wake which was held in her house I looked up at her window and saw a large red admiral butterfly. When I looked on Google I saw that butterflies are very rare in England in November which was when she was buried. Also my mother died on 25th October and my granddaughter was born the following 26th July - almost exactly nine months later.

Sweetpea60 Wed 14-Jan-26 10:47:52

My mum died 3 years ago, I didn't get to see her before she passed. Her favorite flower was yellow roses, she had them in her wedding bouquet.3 weeks after she passed my home shopping arrived on the very first container was a bunch of half a dozen yellow roses, I had not ordered them never order flowers so I like to think it was a sign.

polnan Wed 14-Jan-26 08:10:00

Silvertwigs,, so what did you do with his scarf?

Grandma70s Wed 14-Jan-26 07:42:07

Or as Hamlet says in the Shakespeare play, “There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy”

Maremia Wed 14-Jan-26 07:20:16

As beachcomber said,
'It's arrogant to think we know everything about this universe. '

Toetoe Wed 14-Jan-26 06:57:40

Mum died and i put her picture up on my landing wall. About 2 years after my father came to stay at my house with his new girlfriend. He had never stayed before as lived 400 miles away . We were sitting together in the lounge and heard a lot of banging . Stepping out of the lounge I saw mum's picture bouncing down the stairs then landed on the floor at my feet . 🙏

Allsorts Wed 14-Jan-26 04:03:36

We are all stardust, cannot see how you could get signs, but lots believe they do and if it comforts them that's what matters.

nanna8 Wed 14-Jan-26 03:23:05

I do. Every time we go anywhere unusual there is always a swift and it always flies right past my head. No matter which country. I know it is my mum watching and now I have a laugh and just say ‘ there she is again’. When she died dozens and dozens of swifts circled her house in central London. Really spectacular, never happened before and probably not since. I don’t dwell on it, just one of those inexplicable things .

Growing0ldDisgracefully Wed 14-Jan-26 02:29:05

In recent months, I was practicing some pieces on my piano accordion at home for an upcoming musical event I was due to play in with a group of other players. My accordion decided to suddenly have a stuck bass button. A similar fault had happened many years ago (1978 to be precise!) when I was playing in a concert with my Dad and Dad, being a very handy practical person, had done a quick repair on the accordion's innards using a bit of wire and piece of rubber he'd scrounged up! So, on this recent occasion I remarked into thin air "I wonder Dad if this is the same problem"? With that, a musical model I have of a piano, in a different part of the room, started playing. No one else was at home and I wasn't anywhere near the model. I took this to be Dad agreeing with the diagnosis of the fault, and when later my husband helped me take the accordion apart, it was indeed the same problem with another note (a small connector piece had broken), and after all these years, Dad's repair was still in place and still going strong!
And if anyone is wondering how I know which year the previous fault occurred, I have since found a letter I wrote to the music shop the accordion came from, asking them if they could supply a replacement part for the faulty/broken piece, which they had returned to me with the replacement part - which had never been used, due to Dad's excellent 'temporary' repair!

ClicketyClick Wed 14-Jan-26 00:49:27

I won't go into detail but every anniversary of my sister's death, up pops a link on my mobile to a specific post she'd put on her Facebook account many years before her death. I've never used Facebook except for that first time it popped up and did so out of curiosity. Having read that posting it held significant meaning. It's weird and I have no logical explanation why this happens every year and, if I'm honest, the first couple of years it happened it was a bit unnerving but not now.

Dancinggran Tue 13-Jan-26 23:07:48

My husband suddenly at the end of our holiday in Crete. A couple of weeks later I had been cleaning and vacuuming upstairs and took the vacuum back downstairs, when I next went upstairs shortly after there was a sharp pencil in the doorway to our bedroom (my husband was a joiner and always had sharp pencils). Later that day I received a phone call from the undertakers to let me know he had been repatriated and they had collected him from the airport. I like to think it was his way of letting me know he was on his way home.

Kate1949 Tue 13-Jan-26 22:59:34

Such sad stories flowers

Sueinkent Tue 13-Jan-26 22:45:52

Have a listen to Uncanny on bbc sounds.