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Bereavement

My husband suddenly left me

(33 Posts)
silverlining48 Thu 12-Feb-26 10:40:28

I am sorry Makir, 3 months is no time at all, take things a day at a time. Talk to your family, or visit if possible.
Bereavement counselling can help. flowers

fancythat Thu 12-Feb-26 07:46:12

Are you able to move nearer to your family? Even if only for a short while?

Greyduster Thu 12-Feb-26 07:05:07

I am so sorry for your loss, which is very recent. You must give yourself time. There is no handbook for grief. Be kind to yourself. It is coming up for four years since I lost my DH and I still have times when that loss is visceral, but little by little you will learn to adjust to it and move forward. Don’t be afraid to talk about him; and to talk to him. And I know it’s difficult but do try and eat. Even small amounts of food are better than nothing.
People on here are always willing to listen and to help.

BlueBelle Thu 12-Feb-26 06:57:59

A hug for you, as others said 3 months is a whisper in time.

Have you considered some bereavement counselling ? It does help to have a whole hour, talking it through to someone who understands, you can laugh over the good times and explain your feelings. You really shouldn’t keep them locked inside of your head . Getting them out does really help
I haven’t experienced losing a husband as I m divorced and it really did nt effect me a lot when he died but I went through a difficult year when mum and dad died six months apart.

You are at the very start of the grieving process and there are many steps to take You husband would not want this
You are still in shock
I wish you well

Grammaretto Thu 12-Feb-26 04:55:11

I am so sorry. It's very early days. I don't know how I got through those weeks as I have little memory of them. It's been 5 years now and I have survived. I am only now able to sort through his things and think about moving house.

The sudden death will be traumatic.
Dog walks are good. I had a few close friends who somehow knew how to help.
It was during the pandemic so there was a strange quietness and none of the usual demands. The children were grieving too.

Our doctor at the time was understanding.
I think the old cliché that time is the healer is true.
You never get over it but you get used to it.
I talk to him and get cross with him for not being here.

I also found these forums supportive. Some wonderful people are on here.

fancyflowers Thu 12-Feb-26 03:58:38

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this. Three months is hardly any time to stop grieving, your feelings are completely normal.
Things will get better over time and you will be able to live with it. Sending love to you.

Mackir Thu 12-Feb-26 03:20:25

He had a seizure and died in my arms

Mackir Thu 12-Feb-26 03:18:59

I have been trying to cope but it seems i am getting weaker and weaker. I no longer want to be alive without him. Yet I am. How do you go on? Just pretend eeverything is okay? Or do you just curl up in your bed and never get up? I have family but they all live so far away. It has been three months and still I cannot eat a thing. But i feed my dog. She is my only comfort.