Dreams a loved one is still alive

I have these dreams often about my mum and dad and literally last night I had one it was coming up to Mother's Day and I had a box of presents for my mum I opened this and I saw all different things inside I thought she'd like makeup it was all very vivid I was getting it ready to go to her house and in the dream I was consciously thinking I think I'll get some flowers as well but this time in the dream I didn't see her as I was on the way to her house I woke up but I often have dreams where she's with me and I had a dream about my dad recently being on the phone to him it was the old phone the landline all very real and they always seem to look younger that seems to be a theme there are lots of theories about these dreams being visitation dreams I don't know if anyone has looked into that it's quite interesting and the dreams are comforting although sometimes upsetting in the early stages of bereavement

I've had several dreams of my husband who died 5.5years ago. Once I thought i felt him lying next to me which really freaked me out. I've also felt my little dog next to me I could feel the warmth of her body.

I too dream of loved ones who have gone, especially my son who died last year. I dream less of those, like my mother, who died years ago. They are happy dreams as, while they last, loved ones are still here with me.

I'm so glad you're comforted by replies on here Cillafan and hope that you continue to dream and heal.
I was lucky enough to have a lovely dream of my darling husband who died 26 years ago. I was in the living room of our old house and he came in through the French windows. I was so surprised but not shocked or frightened to see him.
I exclaimed 'Rob! What are you doing here, you're dead!" He just smiled his beautiful smile and said 'I'm fine and you know what, Jesus rocks!"
He was not a religious man at all so it was a completely out of character thing for him to say but it gave me so much joy and comfort to think he was in such a good place & at peace

Thank you for the replies everyone, they've been comforting to read, I can see I'm not alone, I continue to think of her just about every minute of every day, my grief is slowly but surely getting better......

I often see my mum (not so much my Dad
^ I wonder why. I would love to see him. He passed away when I was 14 years old.^
P.S. This is so eerie. The night I posted this, my darling Daddy appeared in my dream

I have dreams of my mum quite often, happy dreams.

Mojack26

Yes I dreamt of my gran a few weeks ago, she died over 40 years ago.. I hated wakening up to find it was just a drean...Loved my gran so much and have so many happy memories.

My gran also died over 40 years ago and, like you do, I still miss her terribly. Grief can last a lifetime.

My husband died in 1997,I often dream about him.I do have horrid dreams,I think because of statins I take.

My grandfather lived with me until he died. His money went to his daughters as you’d expect but I keep dreaming he is still alive and wants to know what I’ve done his money as I was his POA. It is so stressful. I also dream he didn’t die and his daughters sent him to a care home without telling me and when I find out he is upset with me for not having taken him back home. He dies in 2008 but these dreams still happen every so often.

Cillafan embrace those dreams of your sister they are precious memories. Only wish I had pleasant dreams of husband I only had nightmares of him dieing . But after he died I had my children even though 20&16 they needed me plus both parents and mother in law to look after . I could never rest incase I was needed . I was on call 24/7.

But that changed when I moved over 100 miles away to the north west. And I had some happy dreams of him .

I talk to him everyday for the last 22 years and if I get cross with him I see him with that stupid grin on his face. No I don't believe in ghosts or afterlife. I am a die in the wool atheist. It's just my mind showing me what I need at the time.

I hope you talk to your sister out loud it does help .

Yes I dreamt of my gran a few weeks ago, she died over 40 years ago.. I hated wakening up to find it was just a drean...Loved my gran so much and have so many happy memories.

There is a saying "Dreams are where your loved ones visit". For months after my mother died, I dreamt that she was sitting in her living room waiting for me to visit. It was upsetting as I felt she hadn't moved on (to wherever that is). But after a few months the dream stopped.

most nights i dream of my parents; when they were alive and I was married to my late husband, sunday mornings were spent with my parents. it was helping mum with baking and sunday lunch, the girls my daughters playing outside, dad and my husband tinkering with cars it was heaven and I tend to dream of that a lot. i wish it was still true. my husband cheated on me and beat me, my daughters were terrible in teens i made mistakes and they had to go into care though we have a sort of relationship now, my mum died young and my darling dad died nearly 20 years ago

My much beloved husband died 34 years ago, occasionally I still have dreams that feature him, we will usually be going somewhere or doing something for instance the last one a couple of weeks ago we were packing to go on holiday, those dreams are vivid and in their own way rather comforting even though I’m quite an unbeliever in an afterlife.

My mother died over forty years ago, and I still often dream about her which I find very comforting. She knew she was dying, and I remember her saying that if at all possible she would contact me from the “other side” which we joked about, but now I feel that perhaps the dreams are just that. I like to think so anyway.

I used to very occasionally see my dad in my dreams. He died 20 years ago but I always felt happy when ni woke up. 5 years ago my mum died and she has never come to me in dreams. I long to see her but it seems it's not to be.

My Mum died over 13 years ago but I have had very vivid dreams with her there right from the beginning after she died. I actually enjoy them and in a way it's like I've spend an afternoon with her like I used to when she was alive. I recently went on a cruise with my younger sister and I had a dream about Mum and one of my Aunties who has also passed was in the dream. I mentioned the dream to my sister and she asked if I'd ever dreamed of Mum before and so I told her it happened about once a month and it was lovely like Mum was visiting me. My sister started crying and said she missed Mum so much and didn't understand why she never had the lucid dreams of Mum. I have no idea why I dream so vividly, except I almost always have vivid dreams. I wished I had never mentioned it because my sister was very upset and said it was like Mum visited me but not her.

My mum died in 92 and dad in 2002, the both appear in my dreams quite often and look as they did when I was a teenager. Never seems odd in the dreams and I find it quite nice to see them young and healthy.

I dream about my mum and dad, aunties and uncle regularly

I've been widowed almost 4 years and I really wish I could have that sort of dream and see my DH alive and well again. I've only dreamt of him once and he was just walking and I didn't know if he was walking away or towards me, it really preyed on my mind a lot.

The nicest dream I remember ever having was several months after my dad died. I was in a small shop and he walked in. Even the shopheeper was surprised and pleased to see him. We hugged. It was lovely.
Yes, I cried a little as I awoke, but that was outweighed by the pleasure of 'seeing' Dad again in that particular dream

But I can understand how such dreams could be very upsetting for others, especially those mourning a younger person or a partner.

I hope so anyway fancyflowers

Grammaretto

My DH died over 5 years ago and is in my thoughts a lot but hardly ever appears in my dreams.

Then one night about 2 years ago I had a very vivid dream. I saw him, he looked healthy and tanned. There were other people around too on what seemed a sunny outdoor place - a farm perhaps.

He saw me but we didn't speak but smiled. He looked really happy and I felt happy to see him.

I might get flamed for this but ... I believe that the deceased are actually in heaven, and that they contact us in dreams, when we are most receptive to contacting them.

I'm always happy after seeing my Dad in a dream. The nicest was when I 'saw' him in a lovely library with his friend Roger. They were have a carlsberg special each and were happy and relaxed. Dad offered to come and collect me but I couldn't join them yet! I woke up cheerful and comforted.