Bereavement counselling

I think in the beginning, there is numbness, then as time goes on , the depth of what you've lost settles in, and thats when the mourning, the grieving, starts.

I'm not widowed, it was my daughter who died, and it quite honestly hit me, reading the thread i mentioned, reading the depths of grief other people feel.
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Cruse is supposed to be very good for people who are widowed- it may be worth phoning them.

You have my sincere condolences for your loss.

Thankyou. I too believe the only way is through it yet the days seem to be harder, and harder. Ive filled tge house with lots and lots of photos of him and his hobbies, ive started to write tge story of my life from meeting him. Ive got several photo albums im working on , desperately trying to keep him alive and here with me. We have been together since i was 17. Always held hands joined at the hip, did everything together, truly my soulmate. Now im alone its like half of me went with him and the other half is bobbing up and down in an ocean of grief. I dont think i will ever come back from this i love him so very very mucn.

I'm not at all unsympathetic, but i find, with grief, the only way through it, is through it.
Its still such early days for you - i used to wish someone could knock me out, to get away from the pain for a while.
There is a beautifully sad thread on here, started by someone who is recently widowed too.

Perhaps the people who have posted on there can give advice, or you may find comfort by reading their words.

I lost my husband of 57 years just 12 weeks ago im falling apart cant sleep, eat and constantly crying. Have thought of counselling but it wont bring my wonderful husband back and i find it hard to talk about him without falling apart.

I've had it ...two lots of it. It made me feel worse going over the loss of my child again. Brought it all back. Horrible

I had EMDR therapy and i found that more helpful.
I don't know how or why, because it seemed like a lot of hocus pocus to me, but i felt better after.

BlueBelle

It all depends on the counsellor some are better than others, it’s not necessarily going to make you feel better, but hopefully it may put things into perspective and show you a way forward to continue living, albeit very differently
Grieving won’t go away by talking about it, but it’s much healthier than keeping it all bottled up inside.

I'm with BlueBelle. I have had bereavement counselling, I don't think anything is ever going to make you feel better but it did give me an outlet to talk which in itself was a bit of a release.

It all depends on the counsellor some are better than others, it’s not necessarily going to make you feel better, but hopefully it may put things into perspective and show you a way forward to continue living, albeit very differently
Grieving won’t go away by talking about it, but it’s much healthier than keeping it all bottled up inside.

I had some, and i can't say it made much difference to how i felt, and still, to this day feel.
Of course, i want my loved one back, and all the talking in the world won't change that, in my case.

That's just my take on it, though.