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SUICIDE OF MY GRANDCHILD - NO HELP

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Wyllow3 Tue 14-Jul-26 23:25:57

Yes, ring MIND tomorrow or asap

Loo at this page now with a list of MIND resources.

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/helplines/

They have knowledge of the full range of resources available.

Basically if your daughter is not crying out loud enough for the help she needs and

if you are afraid she might take her own life then you must break boundaries and phone her GP, too. xx

flowers flowers

Madmeg Tue 14-Jul-26 23:25:54

As a grandma of a young teenage girl my heart goes out to you. I'm afraid I have no personal experience of such a tragedy but try all of the suggestions given to you on here, however remote they may seem to be.

I hope your daughter gets the help she deserves. And don't forget to look after yourself too. xxxxx

Luckygirl3 Tue 14-Jul-26 23:22:29

I am so sorry for all that you are going through and hope that you can find the right support for your DD - and for you too as you are going through so much.

valdali Tue 14-Jul-26 23:02:50

Grammy 57 - I hope one of the voluntary groups mentioned can help.
I just wanted to say how much I admire you for keeping going & being there for your other grandchildren, you're worried that your daughter doesn't have support but she does - she has you. I know she needs professional help but knowing you've got her back must be such a prop when she's struggling so.
When you find some support for her, maybe you could benefit from some support for yourself too.

Gingerrice Tue 14-Jul-26 22:59:56

The Hub of Hope( gooogle it) is a service that will tell you what services exist in your area.It was set up by Jake Mills a man with lived experience of mental health problems
I agree with Louisa 1523 that trying to trace who " should have" will waste energy and not help you. There are some amazing services out there ( definitely Compassionate Friends too - set up by Linda Hurcombe who lost her own daughter and has written books about it.
But at the end of the day grief cannot be erased or hastened - so so sorry for your situation. Seek help for yourself too through any of these charities

Vito Tue 14-Jul-26 22:50:22

My heart goes out to you all,I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'm afraid I don't have any advice, just wanted to give my condolences flowers

Bukkie Tue 14-Jul-26 22:20:44

My friend lost her 19 year old son to suicide in 2020. She says she was greatly supported by MIND.

MissAdventure Tue 14-Jul-26 22:17:57

The Compassionate Friends share.google/C4rhwXPPpsClCeaM3

crazyH Tue 14-Jul-26 22:11:32

What a tragic loss for all of you . I have no words. I can only hope and pray that you are all strong enough to bear this sorrow . 💔

fancyflowers Tue 14-Jul-26 22:07:27

I am so sorry for your tragic loss.

Litterpicker Tue 14-Jul-26 22:00:27

I’m so sorry for what your daughter and you are going through. I am sure others on here who have suffered this most tragic loss will be able to offer you some advice and support.

This website lists organisations that can help (including the one Primrose has suggested).

suicidebereavementuk.com/immediate-support-resources/

BlueBelle Tue 14-Jul-26 22:00:16

Oh Grammy57 this is so heartbreaking, my friends son did this too he was a bit older just coming up to 21
He had everything
As the police etc haven’t come up with counselling have you asked at your or your daughters doctors for help
There are bereavement counsellors at most hospitals I believe Could you afford a private counsellor to save waiting any longer
I can’t imagine how heart broken you both are

SueDonim Tue 14-Jul-26 21:59:17

I’m so sorry, that’s an utter tragedy. I hope you can find help here. flowers

LOUISA1523 Tue 14-Jul-26 21:56:27

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss ....unfortunately mental health support is thin on the ground these days....don't worry yourself with who 'should have' ....concentrate on moving forward....has your DD seen the gp? Has she been referred ( or self referred' ) to any support service? ....is she looking for specific support....ie with her drinking? Is she asking youbto help her find support?

Doodle Tue 14-Jul-26 21:55:53

I’m so sorry. I hope someone on GN can help you. What a dreadful thing to have happen. Praying for you and your family. 💐

Primrose53 Tue 14-Jul-26 21:51:15

So sorry for your loss. X

Primrose53 Tue 14-Jul-26 21:49:45

I have a friend and her husband who fundraise for the Papyrus project for young suicides.

I wonder if they could help.

www.papyrus-uk.org/

Grammy57 Tue 14-Jul-26 21:32:03

I wonder if any of you can help me, I hope and pray none of you have gone through this but maybe you know of someone who could help me? My granddaughter took her life this year, she was only 15. My daughter and I found her in horrible circumstances. I have been chasing around trying to get my daughter help. She is suffering from trauma. Her little girls face is beside her all the time, that's all she can see. We were told that a counsellor would contact us within 72 hours that never happened. The police blame NHS the NHS blame the police and I just run between them getting nowhere. It's been almost 2 months and she's had no help, everything has been so hard. She's drinking a lot to blot everything out which isn't helping. I'm caring for the remaining children and have not been able to grieve the loss of my beautiful granddaughter. Does anyone know how I can get help? My daughter is speaking to someone from a charity on Thursday but its just an assessment, we needed help 2 months ago. I am so scared she's going to do the same thing our of sheer desperation. I cannot believe she can just be left like this. Well I can because that's how my grand daughter was left with no help until she couldn't bear it any longer. I have been fighting this for weeks and I am beginning to feel defeated. I can just see my daughter losing everything, her home, job even the kids. She's a single parent, her ex is useless. Can anyone help us. I would just like to know who should have helped in the first instance and get them to do it now.