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notoveryet Sun 10-May-26 06:52:53

It's a while since I posted,life has got in the way. Lost my dh 8 years ago. We knew he had a few years left and he desperately wanted to move, this we did. I cannot move again for financial reasons and because I need to be local to my granddaughter for childcare for her children. The cottage has needed extensive repairs and I've had to get a bank loan to start on the roof. I am just so depressed and mourning so much. This doesn't feel like home any more though he loved it so much. I don't really know what I'm asking for here ,just feel in a constant cycle of grief and worry. Gp doesn't want to offer anything and my daughter does what she can but is in a high powered stressful job herself. Maybe I'll just say thank you for reading and carry on with the struggle

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Macaydia Sun 10-May-26 07:08:23

I am sorry you lost your husband. I am glad he loved the home. Fix it so the next person can love it and you can find a wee bungalow. Or stay there. It might never feel like home with DH gone but at least you dont get wet when it rains. Call a GP for anti-depressants if you need them to function. I know you can show your GD strength and character.

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Maremia Sun 10-May-26 07:22:18

flowers flowers flowers

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BlueBelle Sun 10-May-26 07:26:57

Sending you some flowers 💐
When life gets too overwhelmingly loaded with grief we can drown in a river of sadness I wonder if you had any help or bereavement counselling 8 years ago or ‘ just on with things’ I think it could be very helpful instead of going for gp tablets to consider some talking therapies
The other thing is I know you won’t think you feel up to it but volunteering can give a huge boost you meet others it can be very uplifting and take your mind off things there are so many organisations that need people
About the house, it can be overwhelming, (I know believe me) your husband loved it I m sure his presence is still there so perhaps you can learn to love it too
The summers coming, get out in the sunshine with those little great grandkids and face the sunshine, it will help

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