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LucyGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 23-Apr-15 14:04:12

Are we missing out on gap years?

As author Debbie Rix waved her son off on his travels, she wondered what it is exactly that young people get out of a gap year. And if they're so good for younger people, why should older generations miss out?!

Debbie Rix

Are we missing out on gap years?

Posted on: Thu 23-Apr-15 14:04:12

(31 comments )

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Are older generations missing out?

My son disappeared off on his 'gap year' recently. It was not actually a gap year at all, but six weeks travelling round the Far East. Was I worried, as I waved him goodbye at Heathrow airport - his brand new backpack digging into his shoulders? Yes, if I'm honest. I was filled with a combination of fear and pride. He had worked hard, post-university, and saved up for his travels. So I felt he deserved it. And I hoped, desperately, that he would have an interesting - and safe - time. But is there any point in this gap year travel… beyond having a long holiday? Just what do we imagine our young people get out of this experience?

Any long haul trip requires organisational skills - so that's one box we can tick. My son found the complexities of sorting out phone insurance, cash passports, visas, photocopies of EVERYTHING all quite a tall order before he left. Part of him just wanted to go away and not bother with all the 'just in case' stuff. But by the time he waved me goodbye at Heathrow he had understood the value of it. In fact, he texted me from Dubai airport asking me to send him another scan of some document or other. Why? Because "you’ve got me neurotic now, mum". Good, I thought… neurotic equals sensible.

A sense of self-reliance. One of his friends developed a form of typhoid not long into their trip. The boys marched him off to hospital within two days and he was better within five. The doctors told them they had been sensible to bring him in so quickly. Another boy on the same ward - also from the UK - had a similar illness; he had been 'self medicating' for six days before he finally sought help. The medics were less confident of his full recovery.

Looking at the map, the destinations seem to flow rather neatly from one to the other. Perhaps my own gap year is beckoning…


An understanding and respect for other societies, their customs and history is a valuable lesson. And fun and is obviously key - as long as they stay safe (bungee jump anyone?).

So are these the reasons why 2.5 million youngsters plan to go travelling every year? And if so, does it prepare them for the world…or for university? Interestingly, the figures demonstrate that kids who take a gap year before they go to university are more likely to graduate with a First or Upper Second Class degree.

And what of employers? Surveys show that employers generally view gap years favourably. However, they do look for achievements beyond 'twenty bars in twenty days'; some evidence of self-improvement is considered desirable.

So, on balance… are gap years a good thing? And if so, are they wasted on the young?

There's a growing trend towards the older gap year traveller. I have several friends who have decided that if their children can do it, they can do it too. One chum disappeared off to India with her sister recently, leaving husbands and kids to fend for themselves. Touring the southern district of Kerala, they had a wonderful time, finding accommodation in 'home stays' - the Indian equivalent of the British B&B - or in tiny guesthouses that provided mosquito nets and the occasional swimming pool at a very reasonable price. They ate street food and travelled by bus. They saw, heard, and experienced things you simply don't get near to when you're tucked safely up in a four star hotel.

Another couple set off to trek round South East Asia. "Why?" I asked the wife, only slightly incredulously, before she left. "Because Ben (their recently married son) will be having babies soon, which means I'll never get another chance to be away for so long." She has a point.

One of my dearest friends invited me to go to India with her last month; I am tempted. My husband says he wants to see Australia and New Zealand before he's "too old to enjoy it", and I need to go to China to do some research for my next book. Looking at the map, the destinations seem to flow rather neatly from one to the other. Perhaps my own gap year is beckoning…

Now then, where can I buy a stylish, comfortable backpack?

Debbie's new book The Secrets of the Tower is published by Bookouture and is available from Amazon.

By Debbie Rix

Twitter: @debbierix

GeminiJen Mon 03-Aug-15 14:39:20

For Jenn
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PPP Tue 04-Aug-15 10:57:22

I am having a gap decade as our generation missed out on the useless gap year.

Judi123 Fri 14-Aug-15 15:18:24

I asked for a gap year at 61 from my part time job as a teaching assistant. After the boss had stopped laughing, he said no! so I left. Now on week 22 of my life and enjoying every minute.
PS finding I am spending much less money, as relying on savings, thought I would be poverty stricken by now but am going to make it to 63years 11months and 5days, pay day. (if the government doesn't change the date again)

HazelGreen Tue 18-Aug-15 16:06:55

I think Australians have the habit of going "walkabout" in later life when family reared. We were once served in a restaurant by an older lady who told us of it. It meant doing some work to fund her time away in her case. Of course apart from grankids, many of us still have an older generation to care for. There are also those whose finances allow for lengthy cruises. They seem to do more than one. This lifestyle seems to be addictive for some.

pauline42 Sun 30-Aug-15 22:02:13

My retirement Gap Year! That's a great response to come out with when friends ask " why would you want to leave home for 2 months" ......up until now I have just replied that its the one adventure that heads up my Bucket List!

But really, it's simply to find the answer to a question I often ask myself these days now I have the time, am fully retired and enjoying life......."what would retirement be like in the UK if we hadn't moved to Canada 40+ years ago?

So next Spring - for the months of April and May - I have booked a little cottage in the cotswolds - which I have always imagined would be a wonderful place to retire to.

I will be walking distance from the butchers, the bakers and the library - and I will catch the bus and explore all the surrounding villages, shop at the local stores for my supper, plan country walks and even join in the yoga class held in the village hall on friday mornings. I am excited to strikeout on this new adventure and I know that I will learn something about myself and when I return home I will be richer for the experience.

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