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Blogging for estranged grandchild

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UkeCan61 Tue 26-Apr-16 18:32:35

Hi Gransnetters, I would like to write a blog for my estranged baby granddaughter but I'm not sure where to start. Also a bit wary about legalities. I don't want to write anything derogatory but want to make it clear to her in the future that it was not our choice not to be involved in her life. Any advice please?

rubylady Tue 26-Apr-16 19:23:12

You could do it like a diary, keep her up to date with what you are doing, going etc and leave anything else out. It will become clear how much you love her through your writing and you won't need to tell her that it wasn't your choice not to be in touch with her. She will know. You could either do it as a blog or just in a journal. If it was in a journal/scrap book, you could include photos, tickets to places you have been, leaflets etc, like a story book for her. Good luck with it, it sounds like a lovely idea. flowers

TerriBull Wed 27-Apr-16 16:48:15

UkeCan61 - I think I read somewhere on the "Cut out of their lives" support thread one of the grandmas has a blog for her grandchild but I can't remember who it was, I think you should mention your intentions on that thread I'm sure you'd get some good advice. I understand why you would want to do this. Good luck with it flowers

UkeCan61 Wed 27-Apr-16 16:53:26

Thanks Rubylady a journal is a lovely idea if I was sure I would be able to give it to her but I'm not. I read of someone doing a blog or something as most kids will be on line at some point. Not sure how they would find it though. I could leave details with the wills we made at the solicitors. I just wonder if a blog can be done where only certain invited people can read it as wouldn't want to embarrass anyone. confused

UkeCan61 Wed 27-Apr-16 17:35:34

Thanks Terribull I'll check that out. I have also posted other stuff on that thread. wink

Granarchist Wed 27-Apr-16 17:39:57

you can create a secret Facebook page where people have to be invited to be able to access it. You could create a blog there?

rubylady Thu 28-Apr-16 00:30:59

A photo album/scrap book for my adult children has been on my mind for some time, I've even bought the books to do them but I am still too upset with my ED to sort it just yet. I will do it one day, and then she will realise that whatever I am mad at her for now (lying, cheating me out of money etc.) she will still know how much I do love her. She won't listen at the moment so it's something to do for them both. My DS would love it.

If she then shares it with her children then it is up to her. I really don't feel connected to her children enough to leave them the same as we have never been given the chance to get a relationship off the ground between us, unfortunately. the little one is now nearly 3 and I haven't seen him for 2 years, very sad.

UkeCan61 Fri 29-Apr-16 11:14:59

Hi Granarchist I didn't know about secret FB page. I'll look into it. Also my son-in-law (stepdaughters hubby) has an email account for his 2 kids where he writes a diary for them. When they are old enough he will give them the password so they can read it. Not they are estranged, he just thought it a nice thing to do. So, another option.
It's sad that we estranged ones have to think about such things though isn't it? sad