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LucyGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 29-Sep-16 17:20:15

Living with Rosie

Blogger and gransnetter, Christine Human, describes getting a new puppy - and the sleepless nights and extra work that go with them - at sixty-three years old... At what age would you say 'no' to new pets?

Christine Human

Living with Rosie

Posted on: Thu 29-Sep-16 17:20:15

(56 comments )

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At what age would you say 'no' to new pets?

The last time we had a puppy I was eleven years younger. I am now sixty-three, my husband, Shed Man, seventy and suffering with mild MS. The list for and against having another dog was long and complicated, sprinkled with revisions but in the end it came down to the empty space in our hearts where a dog should be. It’s like having a toddler around; it's turned our lives upside down.

This is the story of a day in the life of our Border Collie, (fourteen weeks). Rosie started the day by grabbing the elastic cord of my anorak which, when pulled, is designed to gather the hem in. On this occasion, with plastic tag firmly grasped in her razor sharp baby teeth, she ran outside to escape the consequences.

I spoke sternly, "Rosie drop" and to be fair she did. The cord, now with the tension usually associated with firing a catapult, was launched back at me, flicking me across the upper thigh, the sound reminiscent of a headmasters cane on a youngster's bottom smarting like a bee sting.

It's like having a toddler around; it's turned our lives upside down.


We go to weekly puppy classes together, and Rosie is reminded that we are top dog, and eat first. Breakfast, formerly a leisurely affair, is now reminiscent of a fast food chain prior to a cup final. We gobble cereal, slurp coffee and have taken toast off the menu. We watch the oven gloves being deftly flicked off the cooker oven handle, admiring her dexterity, and take note of the directions of travel for later recovery. We relax as she settles down under the table after ignoring her requests for attention which involve jumping on laps and licking ears as enthusiastically as a surgeon scrubbing up pre-op.

Shed Man rises with shoes like flip-flops while Rosie sits innocently, a long droopy moustache of shoelaces making her look like the baddie in an old Kung Fu film.

The recycling is deftly spread around the patio, the clanging of tins, the puncturing of plastic bottles, and the enthusiastic sorting of wine bottles sound like an orchestra tuning up the percussion section. Pots of pansies bravely survive replanting, (four times this week). And the cat sits motionless on the shed roof with narrowed eyes flexing its sharpened claws, ready to strike.

I wear a gadget to measure my footsteps and the 10K that I found so hard to reach prior to having Rosie now transmits gold medals to my iPhone for doubling my target.

In the evenings we turn off the TV and yawn loudly. Rosie knows it is bedtime and after a final run around the garden chasing shadows she pops into bed, sighs and settles straight down. And then we sneak back into the sitting room and pour ourselves a glass of wine...

Rosie has thrown down the gauntlet and we are rising to the challenge.

Read more posts from Christine on her blog A Dangerous Age.

By Christine Human

Twitter: @adangerousage

wot Mon 03-Oct-16 21:51:22

Oh love her! (Grace)

oldgoat Mon 03-Oct-16 19:09:13

I am nearly 70 and OH is 73.We have a schnoodle puppy who is the joy of our lives. DD has just taken care of him when we went on holiday and I am sure that, if necessary, she would adopt him. Perhaps we are fortunate in having pretty good health, or are a bit delusional, but I don't think of us as being old and past it and am so glad that we made the decision to get a new pet.

DaphneBroon Mon 03-Oct-16 18:32:14

It's that moment when you think Is this my last dog?
One way or another I have had a dog most of my life and I just wonder if I can face that heartache more than one more time? In a way I was lucky with the first 2 greyhounds I had, the first developed a brain tumour and although fine for about a year, when the end came it was a sudden collapse with no agonising over what to do. He was 12. His successor ran in from the garden early one morning, made for her bed, squeaked, her front paws slid away and I reckon she was dead almost before she hit the floor. She also was 12. A dreadful shock but mercifully quick. The latest girl is now 13 and still going (fairly ) strong but I realise we are living on borrowed time.
I am 68 and no way could DH look after a dog if I weren't here, he would probably have to go into a care home or sheltered accommodation at best. Is Grace my last dog then?

Shanma Mon 03-Oct-16 15:02:40

This question has been on my mind alot lately. I am 63, DH a year older. At the moment I am fit and well, he is not. we have a 12 year old Rough Collie, and I dread the day he walks off to pastures new
sad. We have had Dogs all our lives, and I cannot imagine a home without one.

Our old Dog has been, and fingers crossed still is very healthy, apart from the odd Tummy upset he has never been to the Vets, apart from his yearly Jabs of course. I still walk him but really not far at all as he gets easily tired, and his back legs are a little weaker so he is very much mollycoddled. His walks are more to give him a bit of interest, see a few other dogs, get fussed by people, which he always does!

He is like an old person now, he loves his routine, and almost seems to have OCD in as much as he Has to sit/lie in a certain place at certain times. We let him do that, no skin off our noses, as long as the old boy is happy.
Big question is though, when the time comes, would we have another. I really cannot imagine being without, but one MUST put the Dog first. A young Dog would need so much more excercise, which would be down to me. My Husband is going to get worse, and of course I am getting older too! I guess an alternative is to take in an older Dog, but that can bring other sorts of problems.
Perhaps helping out with Hearing Dogs for the Deaf, or Guide Dog Puppies may be an alternative. I just don't know.
Hopefully our Old boy will continue for some time in his own happy OCD way smile, and when the time comes I will have to see how things are and make my decision then. Difficult, isn't it?

middleagespread Mon 03-Oct-16 14:48:49

waggingtailssl that sounds absolutely lovely.i shall be looking for something like this next year when we are unable to take our dog. I have been so worried about leaving her in kennels,she is so precious. If you know anyone in our region, Somerset, please get in touch.

wot Sun 02-Oct-16 16:22:58

And here's my Sophie (again!) Half greyhound.

ajanela Sun 02-Oct-16 10:16:56

I worry what would happen to the pet if I die.

We have just taken in an abandoned cat ? Age, that was starving in the street but better with us oldies than his suffering. Planning to buy one of those automatic feeders for when we travel

waggingtailssl Sun 02-Oct-16 09:33:02

This is an interesting Blog and a subject that's dear to my heart. I own a business in Berks & Bucks which is in essence an alternative to kennels where dogs stay in the homes of hosts. The majority of hosts; carers; dog loving friends; call them what you will....are retired former dog owners. One lady used to own Alsations and misses the companionship desperately but also loves travelling and enjoys not having the commitment both financially and physically of having a full time dog in her life. Now, she gets to enjoy dogs when it suits her and receives a modest payment for each day that a dog is with her. The dogs enjoy lots of attention and love in a home environment. All of the hosts agree that it keeps them socially active as they meet other dog walkers and often form great friendships with the dog's owners. It's always so much more fun walking with a dog than just walking for the sake of it. There's always an opportunity to chat with other dog owners whenever you are out with a dog. Waking up to a waggy tail in the morning is certainly another factor. There are plenty of Dog Home Boarding businesses across the country so if you miss dogs but don't want a full time companion, this could be the perfect solution for you. Worth PAWsing for thought....

f77ms Sun 02-Oct-16 08:37:49

I could never be without a pet but I have the luxury of built in babysitters with my son still living at home. The house would not be the same , I have 4 cats , Larry, Rita , Ambrose and Rosie all quite elderly . The pleasure and affection they bring outweighs any inconvenience they cause .

NfkDumpling Sun 02-Oct-16 08:19:43

Yes Vissos I think, when we do decide to have another dog, it will be a long term foster through the Cinnamon Trust.

vissos Sun 02-Oct-16 00:22:02

You can always foster. No vet bills, regular breaks and the main thing - they leave you alive.

Deedaa Sat 01-Oct-16 22:06:53

Our younger cat is 5 so he will probably live till I'm at least 80 so I think we will have to be sensible and say "No more kittens!" Although we did say that before we had him! Perhaps a middle aged rescue cat might creep in?

NfkDumpling Fri 30-Sep-16 20:16:01

Other peoples puppies are lovely!

We decided after many years of various pets, from stick insects to a pony, that after our last dog died we'd have a break from pet ownership. I have to say the house stays clean for a lot longer - except when we get our dog fix when one or two of the granddogs come to stay. We would both love another dog, but at present we're enjoying the freedom to stay out as long as we like, going away when we like, etc.

One day, when we slow down a bit, then we'll have another dog.

middleagespread Fri 30-Sep-16 19:47:38

millymouge- they look so cute together.

middleagespread Fri 30-Sep-16 19:06:38

Sounds like a fine plan. Enjoy your cuddles. smile

middleagespread Fri 30-Sep-16 19:04:04

Made me smile, the thought of you creeping around.smile

middleagespread Fri 30-Sep-16 19:01:49

Greyhounds are so beautiful aren't they?

middleagespread Fri 30-Sep-16 18:59:47

It's so nice to hear your tale. Rosie is 7 months now and a moody teenager but I wouldn't be without her.

Synonymous Fri 30-Sep-16 18:55:09

I don't think that there is an actual age when you finally say," No more" but rather there is a time in everyone's life when enough is enough.
The last in our own long line of 'feline employers' died shortly before we moved house and so there was a natural break where we felt our home life was too unsettled. As time went on we became used to a cleaner home and no ties and now we just couldn't go back to all that extra work of caring and training. The final goodbye is often such a heart wrenching time and I really don't feel I could go through that again so we will remain without a furry friend.

I will confess that I did confide to DD that if I was ever left on my own I would bite the bullet and find a new furry friend but please don't tell Mr S! He wouldn't be at all impressed at the thought of my replacing him with a furry friend!grin

DaphneBroon Fri 30-Sep-16 07:37:39

I'm afraid my iPad didn't like whippy tail I know Bella isn't a whippet!

DaphneBroon Fri 30-Sep-16 07:36:36

smilesmilesmile (as near as I can get to a "like"button)

millymouge Fri 30-Sep-16 03:46:26

So glad we have our two, big part of our lives

DaphneBroon Thu 29-Sep-16 23:34:07

Just watch out for that whippet tsil! There is a condition known as Happy Tail where the poor happy greyhound whacks his/her tail against things so often the tip bleeds (and greyhounds know how to bleed!) Grace came to us with a bleeding tip and every time she whacked something like the door frame with it the blood would spatter all over the place!
An open-tipped dry bandage under a pop sock protected it until it healed but THEN of course, last Christmas there was the tale of the tail. Several weeks of Buster collar, bandaging, vets bills antibiotics, Tramadol etc until she lost a good 4 inches off it by amputation and I lost a lot of money!!
Lovely dogs !!

downtoearth Thu 29-Sep-16 23:00:43

Thank you Daphne if I remember correctly you are mum to Grace,this name was one I wanted for Bella as we had to re name her,unfortunately a neighbour shares this name and I don't think she would be impressed....and neither would the neighbourgrin,it is very true about learning to play and learning the difference between her toys and our possessions,we live her from the tip of her pointy extending nose to the end of her punishing whip like tail, she is like bambi ..on ice

Penstemmon Thu 29-Sep-16 19:16:58

I would love a couple of kittens but DH is adamant that he does not want any more pets sad
I had always been the one to take our elderly and/or sick pets to the vets when the time for euthanasia was right.
For the first time, four years ago, DH took our lovely cat for the final visit to the vet as I was at work. He was devastated for days. A year later. when I mooted getting a new cat/s, he was still totally against it. We do go away quite a bit but it would not be impossible to manage!