jeggings
Following on from naninahat's question - did you get published on your first attempt or did you go the JK Rowling route of getting turned down al ot first? Like many on here I would love to write but my experiences so far have been a little demorialising
Jeggings, it IS demoralising, and the silly thing is that (see my answer to Eppinggran) even when there are successes it's hard to see them as that. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences so far.
My first novel was published, but turned down by several publishers before Picador took it on. So much depends on what sort of a mood the person who reads it is in - as for all of us. So the fact that someone has turned down a novel doesn't mean it's bad, just that they didn't like it personally.
The best advice I can give is to try to turn off the voice which says, particularly to women I think, 'oh you're rubbish, who are you to try? No one wants to know what YOU think' etc etc, and just...WRITE! Then, if you get as far as writing a chapter, then another, just try to go on, and then eventually get hold of the Writers' and Artists' Yearbook, and see what it says about how to find a literary agent. But the most important thing is to stop being hard on yourself, and just...WRITE!