l am an only child and my mother was the best parent there can be. its my turn now to look after her.my mum got ill in 2010. l looked after her at my house since then. she was taken into hospital jan 2013 and has got worse since then. she is 82, she cant walk, cant feed herself is incontinent, and keeps loosing weight.she is now very frail and on the scales she is 5 stone.l have been going mad with getting care for her. l have asked for her to go in a nursing home. her assessment papers state from the hospital, that she needs 24 hour long term nursing care. my daughter works at the care home and thats where l have been asking for her to go. she also has a "mass " in her bladder which they wont touch as she is too frail. so we are feeling the worst. they now tell me she has to go home to her own 1 bed house, and they will send someone in 2 or 3 times a day. the trouble is my mum lives in middx and l live in kent.. l am now fighting this. she cannot be on her own at all. whos going to give her a sip of water as she cannot do it herself. she cant even turn herself to another position. l am moving soon to be near her.so i can go and see her every day.. l phoned age concern and they said if it says 24 hour nursing on her hospital forms they must meet her requirements.. l am going to the home tomorrow to speak to the manager. she said bring all the forms and l will see what we can do. l'm up the hospital everyday to chat to her and feed her. i will post again what the outcome is as l am going to fight all the way to get my mum peace. l am already disgusted what l see in the hospital with the old folk, my mums got me but most of them have no one ..one instance was they sat her on an air cushion that had broken for one week and she was sitting on hard wood, l used to go in and lift her back to bed everytime, she has no flesh on her just bones, complaining didnt get me anywhere...the patients all look forward to me going and cheering them up.. shes been in there 2 months now and l'm still fighting to get her what she deserves. hope somebody can give me any tips, l would be grateful. thank you.
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