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how does she do it

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ninathenana Sun 05-May-13 16:56:52

Mum has been going steadily down hill for 2-3 months now. She is very well looked after in CH. On a couple of occasions we have thought "this is it" and she has rallied.
On Friday they called me to say she was very poorly. Couldn't get her out of bed. She couldn't even keep fluids down. Staff indicated they didn't expect her to last the weekend. The GP came whilst I was there and prescribed oramorph. I sat with her for hours until my brother arrived to take over.
I went back yesterday morning and she's up and sitting in the lounge !!
Amazing smile

Nonu Sun 05-May-13 17:09:10

Nina , that must be a lovely feeling for you , that mum is rallying.


gracesmum Sun 05-May-13 17:15:30

That's one tough lady!! As long as her quality of life is good - long may it continue. Mind you, your nerves are probably in tatters flowers

Marelli Sun 05-May-13 17:38:38

nina here are some flowers for you and your mum. Not an easy time for you - but as far as your mum's concerned, she's just not ready yet, bless her. How good that you can rest easy that she's comfortable where she is. You be kind to yourself. x

HUNTERF Sun 05-May-13 18:10:02

I know somebody who went in to care in early 2009 and the doctor said she would last 6 months to a year.
She is still alive.


ninathenana Sun 05-May-13 18:10:45

Yes it really is a rollercoaster.
Unfortunately I wouldn't say her quality of life is that great. She is immobile, doubly incontinent, can't make conversation and doesn't eat.
But as long as she is not in pain, long may she continue.

HUNTERF Sun 05-May-13 18:50:24


The lady I am talking about eats like a horse.
I visited her once and took her a Cornish pasty. About 20 minutes later she said I had not bought her anything and I went and got her a sausage roll and gave it to her.
As I left I saw a lady who I knew was visiting her. I told her she had a Cornish pasty and sausage roll.
The resident told this lady nobody had come to visit her and nobody had given her any food.


Mishap Sun 05-May-13 20:44:49

I once helped a lady to get attendance allowance under the special rules for those not expected to last more than 6 months. Five years later she was still going strong!! - she just defied all the predictions.

Must be a bit of a roller-coaster for you nina - it is amazing how some peope just rally and bounce back.

Ella46 Sun 05-May-13 21:00:19

nina Your nerves must be in shreds flowers
Look after yourself xx

susieb755 Sun 05-May-13 23:14:10

Nina, so glad she rallied - we were told once that our mum would not make the night, and they put her as dnr, I was expecting the
worse when the phone rang at 6.30am, to be told she had sat up and asked where she was ! She lived another 6 years....