Could anyone offer advice with regards to my brother?
I have two nieces and a nephew all in their late 50s and still working. N1 works shifts living over 100 miles away, N2 about 5 miles away and my nephew lives over 10 miles from where my brother lives.
My husband and I are in our 70s and we live almost two hundred miles away so cannot help with this problem.
My brother as led a very selfish life only ever considering his needs, he treated my SIL appallingly during her lifetime. She died mainly because he insisted they travel by road to Europe when clearly she was too ill to travel the result was she died while coming back. My nephew hasn’t spoken to his father for some years now because of this.
I am amazed my brother has daughters who still worry about him considering the way he treated then when they were young.
The problem now is my brother is in his 80s with health issues which he needs hospital treatment for. N2 who lives the nearest has a heart condition and he has caused her so much stress with his drop everything and see to me attitude that she collapsed and was taken into hospital.
N1 travels between shifts when she can but he is so ungrateful for everything the family have tried to do.
I suggested having someone morning and evening to check on him of course he would have to pay for this but he will not part with any money to make it easier for the girls.
Meals on wheels would also help him.
He lives alone in his own property but the house is in a disgusting state and was even when my SIL was alive because he would not allow her to move anything, he’s a hoarder.
N1 rang me today so distressed not knowing what to do and fearing for the health of her sister.
I am not sure how anything works and wondered if social care could help with this. Does anyone have experience of having to deal with a problem like this?
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