I totally identify Luckygirl,
I cannot leave my H for even half an hour, I rush upstairs, shower and if I wash my hair it has to dry on its own, not a good look I can tell you.
I only get out of the house one day a week, That finishes next week but the SW is coming to discuss that this afternoon.
If I told you of the nightmare routine every single morning of the week I doubt you would believe it.
It consists of him saying like a broken record, where are my clothes, why is the door locked, what do I do when " the girl" comes, do I take my clothes off, where will she shower me?
This said on a loop for up to an hour and a half.
This morning I had to take my breakfast and eat in another room.
The door is locked because 3 weeks ago in the early morning ,he escaped and went in his pyjamas and dressing gown for a newspaper.
He was found wandering, I had already rung the police and they fetched him from the newsagents, who had also rung the police , and brought him home.
They stressed how vulnerable he was, as if I didnt need know, and told me to keep doors locked.
He hates this, he likes to be in control ,as he always has.
Well I feel better for that, awaiting a visit fron carecall this morning to fit a safety device for my peace of mind, and the SW this afternoon.