sunny123, it's really tough, I know. The behaviour of social workers can come as a shock and make it far worse.
My poor old Mum was in hospital having the 6 weeks allowed for physiotherapy/recovery after a stroke. She was pretty confused and couldn't hear very well.
The 'discharge plan' meeting was arranged, with a senior nurse, doctor, social worker, and us. The 'lovely' social worker just barged in hurriedly and shouted, demanding to know the amount Mum had in the bank and whether she owned her home.
Mum was quite taken aback and scared, reluctant to answer - and further confused by it. We had all, quite rightly, assumed that the meeting was to determine the best arrangements for her care. (Silly us!).
Social worker then loudly stated that Mum would just have to sell her home and live in a care home. The other's said little - then off she went to her next job. Mum was in tears.
I was so angry at that point, marching outside was my only option. Luckily, I didn't see social worker again. Never in my life had I felt more inclined towards violence!