I'm sorry no-one informed you of the procedure Betty65, as next of kin you should be kept in the loop at all times, how awful. Had you looked at any care homes yet, or do you have to sell your Mum's house first? I don't know how it works.
My only relative, my aunt, is 85 in May, and at the height of my proposed house purchase in February, announced she wanted to sell her ground floor flat and move into a retirement flat as she'd had enough of 'gardening'. I did lots of research for her and after a fortnight she changed her mind, she's going to stay put and employ private carers 'when she's ready'.
Good luck and keep posting, glad you have a glass of nice wine!
Good Morning Saturday 20th April 2024
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic