Our Health and Welfare Powers of Attorney state our wishes very clearly. The added section stipulates that given certain conditions, we emphatically do not want any ‘striving to keep alive’. And that we do not want or expect our daughters to look after us.
IMO that needs to be put firmly in writing, because what someone says when they have all their marbles, can differ very widely from what they say they want once they have dementia - particularly if they can’t understand that there’s anything wrong with them!
Hardly anybody ever actually wants to go into a home, but there are circs. when it may be the only practical option, especially where dementia beyond the early stages is involved. Having seen, and lived with, far too much of that horrible disease, there is no way I want our dds to have to cope with it.
Re decluttering, I don’t think we have too much stuff, but I have told dds (and will put it in writing) that I will leave a list of anything at all valuable, and they should then just get the house clearance people in.
Having done it myself, I don’t want them to have to do that, either.
Our house is not too big for us, we have only a very small garden, and it’s in a very convenient location for excellent public transport, shops, doctor, etc., so I don’t see us downsizing any time soon.
If I am ever left on my own, I would probably do it, though.
Gardeners 👨🌾 : How much £££ ? 🪴