Any other grandparents care for their grandkids

Where is the father in all this?

Why is she living with you?
Why is she not allowed to go back to the mother's home?

Of course you are not a bad person and your feelings are totally understandable but this youngster is obviously feeling totally adrift and she chose you to run to so she knows you are someone she can depend on .We have our 15 year old granddaughter living with us and it really isn’t too difficult. It is an age when they can do a lot of things independently either with friends or alone and (sadly) they spend a lot of time in their rooms with their mobile phones.It may be for quite a short time but if she is in for the long haul you may find her quite good company in the future.Presumably she is doing GCSE this year so she does need some stability right now. Thinking of you.

Your daughter needs to step up as a parent ...and I say that as a parent who went through several seriously nightmare teenage years with one of my children. I think you need to discuss this with your daughter regarding what you can and can't do, time scales etc. If she didn't have you as a back up her daughter might have ended up in a very difficult situation, happens to too many teenagers. You cannot be her solution!

Is there any chance of family counselling with www.relate.org.uk/ as they do families as well as couples. Getting them both to understand each other is the best outcome. They need strategies for handling conflict when this arises, so they can stay calm, consider the situation and discuss it before flying off the handle. That way they can learn to live with each other.

Of course you're not a bad person because you feel resentful.

It's quite kind that you keep her, really.

We'd not like taking on a 15 year old, we're done raising children. Naturally we'd do what needed doing, as we still are with one of our daughters - we're happily awaiting her not needing our help.

My 16 year old granddaughter did the same thing, last year, after a row with her mum (my daughter). Only lasted for a couple of days, because mother and daughter patched things up,
You’re not a bad person at all. Ofcourse, you can’t go on looking after her- you’ve brought up your children, you’ve done your bit. I don’t know what the procedure is, since your GD is only 15. Someone with more knowledge and experience will come along soon, with more help and advice. Good luck !

Definitely not . If your grand daughter is 15 surely it won't be for very long ? You should Definitely get the family allowance for her at least and probably other financial help..it's wonderful that you're helping in this way be don't be left short . You need to check thecorrect allowances are being paid to you .