88yr old dad wants to go in care whilst I'm on holiday

When I arranged respite care for a relation, I spoke informally to the practice psychiatric nurse, who was making regular visits. He suggested a couple of homes and one of them had space.

I was glad I did because although my relatives room was very pleasant and he was happy there, when I looked into it further as a possible permanent home, I found aspects of it, mainly very small cramped communal areas and narrow corridors thhat didn't matter for a couple of weekend stays but wouldn't otherwise be acceptable.

If he wants the respite option it's basically his "holiday". I would5n't introduce home carers while I was away. Biscuit Queen costs vary quite a bit from area to area. In our town you can currently pay up to twice that much.

what kind of care are you providing for him at the moment.
how about having a careworker come in twice a day; might be cheaper than staying in a carehome.
how would he feel about that.
you could ring a few agencies to get an idea.
unless you know a local freelancer to try.
they are often v good, get clients by word of mouth recommendation.
bluebird agency is meant to be good.

There is a lady lives in the hotel in our village, as she says she prefers that to a care home, could a local hotel be a possibility?
Mind you, I see how a ‘trial period’ in a care home could be a good idea.

Sorry about the typos

You might ex my to look into live in care there are plenty of Agencies which provide this service

AngieT, if your dad has the room (a spare room) would he/you consider a live in carer? There are many companies that offer this option, either as respite or on a more permanent basis.

Thank you everyone for your helpful suggestions.

Look on the Quality Care Commission website and see the ratings of the nearby homes.
It’s also worth looking to see if your father could receive a care package and you may be eligible for attendance and carers allowance.
If all the above are in place it means it’s much easier to get the wheels in motion if he needs urgent care further down the line.

It may be your father wants to dip his toes in the water and see if he could make a permanent move into a care home.

About 12 months ago I enquired with a local care home if they could look after my 85 year old mum whilst I went on holiday. They quoted £895 a week.

@AngieT - this may be worth a look if you haven't already consulted them:
www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/helping-a-loved-one/respite-care/ - If you have a local branch they may be able to advise you of local options too. As a retired social worker I am sad that "Social Services would take too long", but I don't dispute your view on this. Mrs Thatcher and Mr Cameron will be pleased, with the transfer of public services through "Community Care" and onto charities - though.

Sorry whilst I was typing others have said the same thing.
I hope you can sort something which suits you all.

When I needed a break from caring for my H with Alzheimer’s he went into a residential home three times for up to 2 weeks each time.
However he had a social worker, arranged when he came out of hospital after a bad fall and needed extra help for a few weeks.
She did the arrangements.
I paid a proportion of the full fee.
Arranging it privately could cost over £4000 .
I am sure if you rang a couple of homes in your area about respite care you would be able to arrange it.

It's sometimes useful to ask around your neighbours and friends. Otherwise, just search locally for something that seems to fit the bill.
I have to say that I think this an excellent idea. Your father has a limited time there, so if it doesn't suit, he isn't 'stuck'. It will help him think about whether a care home would be a good future option, and if so, whether the one he's in would suit. He'll get an idea of what to look out for in the future.
The only slight disadvantage is the short notice, giving you less choice, but even so, I think you'll get a good idea.
I also think it thoughtful of him so remove worries from you & your sibling.

I have made a list of homes that provide respite care so I'm thinking I will need to start ringing around in the hope I can find somewhere with a vacancy & that my brother can still visit, even though he is unwell himself.

Thank you. Adult Services will take too long to arrange somewhere in time & at the end of it all dad won't be eligible for financial help from them anyway. Time & how to go about it is my main worry.

You could make enquiries with local residential care homes and hopefully one will have a space for the 4 weeks.
When my Dad was in residential care, they quite often had people staying for a few weeks after being in hospital.
Even if you have to go a bit further afield, it won’t matter, as you wouldn’t be visiting.
A family member of mine went 60 miles away to recuperate near the sea and loved it.

You might enquire around local care homes or contact age uk
Otherwise ring your dads local social services.