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Thinking about fostering – confused about allowance & agencies

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melisa111 Tue 30-Sept-25 15:39:40

Hello everyone,

I’ve recently been giving a lot of thought to fostering and I’m a bit confused about how the fostering allowance actually works.

A close friend of mine has just started fostering and she told me that the allowance isn’t a “wage” as such, but more of a support to cover the child’s everyday needs — things like food, clothes, school bits and even activities. She said it also helps recognise the time and commitment that foster carers give, which makes sense as it’s such a big responsibility.

It really made me think seriously about whether this is something I could consider myself. I love the idea of being able to offer a safe and caring home to a child, but like many people I do wonder about the practical side of things — will the allowance genuinely cover everything a child needs?

Also, since I’m based in Birmingham, I’ve started looking into different fostering agencies in the area, but it feels a little overwhelming. There seem to be quite a few, and I don’t know how to tell which ones are really supportive and good to work with.

Has anyone here fostered in Birmingham or nearby? Do you have any recommendations for agencies or advice on what I should look out for when choosing one?

Would love to hear your thoughts and experiences

Primrose53 Tue 30-Sept-25 16:08:32

My friend was a foster carer for several years. She specialised in teenagers, often from the same family. She was getting about £600 a week for each of them and on top of that the kids uniforms were paid for, they were provided with lap tops, all out of school activities were paid for and loads of other stuff.
She was also paid mileage.

She was excellent with the kids and they all did very well with her.

Sago Tue 30-Sept-25 17:42:53

I think you need to speak to professionals.
It’s a huge commitment and these young people have often had very little consistency or stability.
If a foster placement breaks down it can set a child back a long way.
You mist also be aware that many young people in care suffer from foetal alcohol or foetal drug syndrome as well as attachment disorder/anxiety.

Luckygirl3 Tue 30-Sept-25 17:57:10

It s very unusual for a child to need fostering without there being serious problems in the past, either in utero or in their previous lives. So the biggest consideration is not the money but the challenges that the children present. You need to be really prepared for this.
I am not trying to put you off ... these children desperately need loving homes, but it is very important that potential problems are recognised.
Good luck with it all.

Iam64 Tue 30-Sept-25 18:01:09

The amount of foster carer gets can depend on the agency she works for, private tend to pay more than local authorities. Children coming in to be looked after will be traumatised by the changes and likely to have experienced high levels of neglect and abuse.
Support from agencies varies. The assessment then training can seem demanding.

Nanato3 Tue 30-Sept-25 19:17:59

If you're concerned about the money side of things I wouldn't do it .
It's about giving a child a safe , loving environment to live in
It's really hard work and the older you are the harder it is.

Think what it was like bringing your own children up .
Now you are older It's going to be a lot harder , especially has many children have issues.

Good luck with it.

nightowl Tue 30-Sept-25 19:45:14

You can make enquiries with any agency or local authority fostering service with no obligation. If you then feel you would like to take it further, you can also go on to have an initial visit, again with no obligation. This would cover all the questions you have and a lot more besides. The person you speak to will be very honest about the challenges involved. You can then take your time to decide if this is really something you would like to do or not. Agencies are very used to dealing with many enquiries that go no further, so never feel you are wasting their time. The difference good foster carers make to young people’s lives is huge, well done for even considering it.

Mt61 Tue 30-Sept-25 19:54:33

Iam64

The amount of foster carer gets can depend on the agency she works for, private tend to pay more than local authorities. Children coming in to be looked after will be traumatised by the changes and likely to have experienced high levels of neglect and abuse.
Support from agencies varies. The assessment then training can seem demanding.

That is right, private do pay more than local authorities

watermeadow Tue 30-Sept-25 20:07:38

I used to give respite care for children with special needs (or whatever the current term is) This is less of a commitment than fostering but of great value to both the children and their parents. I was paid and also got great support from Children’s Services.