FRIEND OF MINE RECENTLY BEEN TURNED INTO A CARER

Carers Allowance is badly named. Its given to the 'ill' person not the person who is doing the actual 'caring'.
So both his parents should request it and it'll be paid into their bank accounts, not his. The idea is that it's paid to the person needing the care to enable them to afford to pay someone to look after them. They can spend it on , say, a gardener, someone to put grab rails in the shower, a nurse, or someone to get them up and dressed in a morning, they could also spend it on riotous living, no-one checks. To my mind its a stupid allowance.
In my experience Social Services aren't much help, they are more enthusiastic about bullying the family to take all responsibility.
I found AgeUK the most helpful, especially with filling in complicated forms so please try to get him to go to them - and perhaps go with him so they are sure to get the full story?

CariadAgain

He tells me he's already checked out homes and found what they cost - ie the lowest he heard of was £900 a week in this area - and by the sound of it they are far from being able to afford that.

Nope - he isn't exactly keen (British understatement) on being turned into a carer. I don't have to ask that - as I can see how tired he is looking and I've known him long enough to know his skin "erupts" when he's stressed - yep....for sure it is.

residential care cost is means tested in Wales. Not having the wherewithal to pay means the council will contribute.

There must be homes available for those who can't afford to pay.
Social Services will put the burden on your friend but he should just say he can't do it as he needs to work (and have a life of his own)

His parents both need to claim disability payments Social Services should be advising on which benefits they are entitled to. For that he needs a journal of their existing care needs ( help feeding, hygeine, toilet , dressing, medication, finance, shopping, housework and laundry, the lot)

If they still have capacity, he needs to arrange LPOA for both asap. That would give him authority to arrange their care.

He tells me he's already checked out homes and found what they cost - ie the lowest he heard of was £900 a week in this area - and by the sound of it they are far from being able to afford that.

Nope - he isn't exactly keen (British understatement) on being turned into a carer. I don't have to ask that - as I can see how tired he is looking and I've known him long enough to know his skin "erupts" when he's stressed - yep....for sure it is.

I feel very sorry for your friend being in this position. If he needs to work then he can't care for his parents.
Unless he really wants to do the caring and it doesn't sound as if he does then his parents will have to take whatever care is available or go into a home.

There is a sister. He's modern enough that he doesn't automatically assume it's her just because she's a woman.

The sister lives rather further away though and is still working age too (in a job currently).

So - does that mean he could claim carers allowance (which he is already doing) and she could claim carers allowance too? She's sort of back-up relief as I understand it - but I wouldnt go so far as to say she is a carer full-time (which is what he has been turned into - every day/every night pretty much). She's still pretty much having her life - whilst his life is totally on hold until this situation is resolved one way or another.

I wonder if he is their only 'child' or if he has siblings who could share the responsibilities. It sounds as if they are resisting having help and he, understandably, doesn't want them ti go into care. Social Services will, of course, allow/encourage any family or friends to carry on for as long as they can. The only thing that occurs is that they could each claim carer's allowance for the other, doubling the income, if they aren't doing that already. Sorry not to have more to offer.