I went through similar problems with my Elderly Father who was suffering with Dementia at the time, and became inappropriate towards his female carers. We held a case conference with his GP, Social worker, CPN, Care agency, and myself as his next of kin. It was decided that his medication be changed and he was prescribed a medication that helped calm him down with his urges. We also replaced one of his carers with a Male, and although he protested about removing his ‘Girlfriend’ as he called her, he did settle somewhat, but then started ringing the emergency services when my back was turned and making improper suggestions to the call handlers.
We then found him a place in a care home where he was totally supported by Male carers. His behaviour gave us no other choice, after his home care agency totally withdrew his carers after he asked one of them to strip off and get in the shower with him, and offered her money to do so, she had only called in to deliver a prescription to him!
Even in the care home he became disruptive, he still had a degree of Mobility, and tried to escape a few times. Even though he had failed his mental capacity tests and was considered a danger to himself. Sadly after he suffered a fall he was taken into hospital, he had suffered a stroke, and died two days later.
The person who helped us the most was his Community Psychiatric Nurse. She had a firm no nonsense approach with him, and was very experienced in dealing with the elderly. She also suggested the medication that helped calm him down, and arranged the prescription via the GP. Please don’t feel too embarrassed to discuss this with your DH Care Team, they deal with similar situations all the time, and are the best way to get help.