Maniac
Miriam,
Do you have advice,comments for grandparents denied contact with their grandchildren.
Hi Maniac,
My heart goes out to you. I'm not sure that I could handle having no contact with my own grandchildren, and I have to say that the knowledge that my children and children-in-law could exercise that option is one of the things that makes me try really hard to be a granny who'll be made welcome.
But take heart. As long as you keep your presence in your grandchildren's lives, there will come a point when, around 10-11-12, they will vote with their feet, they will get in touch with you. You can keep your presence in their lives with letters, postcards, birthday wishes, little presents, texts, emails and phone calls if these are possible, and by, what I call 'little waves', something such as a message saying 'I'm thinking about you and I love you'.
I don't know your family circumstances, but try to be as imaginative as you can about tiny ways in which you could give them a 'little wave'. You could also stay in touch with a friend of the family who will keep you up to date with their progress.