Being a new widow

matson - here's a warm arm around your shoulders from me. I can't begin to imagine how you're feeling, but you just keep coming on here and you'll get so much support. I promise you that. xx

thank you jeni and ella46 i just cant seem to make descisions anymore, will make a list and ponder it a bit longer x

matson (((hugs))) Things will get better for you

matson I know what you mean.
The first thing to do is to work out what problems with maintance you have
Then, look at possible solutions and their cost.
Next think about do you need to pay for them or have you family who would be happy to do them for you.
Your family I think will know and understand how you feel!

DO NOT DO ANY THING FOR ANOTHER YEAR

It takes at least 3years to adjust!

IT WILL GET BETTER. PROMISE

matson no advice to offer, but ((hugs))

Me neither matson

thanks glassortwo, never to proud to accept a hug x

matson I have not experienced this, ut there are lots of grans on here who will help you, but I would say dont be too proud to ask your family for help! Sending you a {{{hug}}}

mr f died two years plus ago , my home is so empty now, i have been struggling with the thought of moving but dont know whether to. i cant m goaintain this large house even with help from my son and daughter, i,m reluctant and proud to ask for help, and i dont want my family to know how sad , lonely and still grieving i am. my home is full of memories good and not so good. have other members any advice on this problem?

Thanks! It does get easier though!

jeni {{{hug}}}

I still miss mine 9 1/2years! {{{hug}}}

flower {{{hug}}}

flowerfriend ((((hugs))))

Today I have been a widow for a whole two years. So not a new widow. But it often feels pretty new. Not unhappy with my now life. Just missing Mr. Flower.

i was out when you were doing the group hug, but count me in.

((((hugs)))) Ah! That's betta...

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Come on group {{{hug}}}}

And me

I love you lot...

So true littlenellie and ga. I have felt a metaphoric communal hug of compassion, help and hope around me over the past few months - something I didn't expect to need when I first joined GN last year, but it was there for me when I needed it.

Totally agree * ga* a lovely warm community...with lovely friends whenever you drop in....my love to you all

There are so many kind thoughts and much sensible advice on here. This is just how 'community' works at its best; even a 'virtual' one! I think you're all smashing.

I hope it helps.