I have just heard on the Radio............... .

sorry, petallus! correcting spelling is not really my thing...a blip, due to my distress, i think. most unlikely to happen again. my apologies.

my apologies, bagitha, you are correct.

the mean comment which so irked me was 'I might, just might, accept jingl as someone who's posts are valid. On occasion.'

that upset me quite a lot.

granbunny Sat 21-Apr-12 11:40:50
"i think it should be 'tail', not 'tale'...."

Isn't that a comment about spelling?

hmm. i made no comment at all about spelling or grammar.

I'm too knackered after this lot to get away with anything.

I'm going down the pub out to get some lunch.

That one crossed with bags - was talking about being rude or icy

Don't get it - I'd rather be nice where I possibly can, assertive and to the point when I need to, and then people don't have to interpret whether sarciness is pleasant banter or spite. For me, it backfires at some point when people fire rude remarks at each other. Other people can get away with it, but I can't.

My best ever teacher used to say "Beware of charmers!"

I'm glad I'm not the only one!

Jeni I'm exactly the same!

When I was at work if anyone talked down to me they got the full force of my charm (which was quite considerable at the time!! )

I am nice to everyone as life is too short to be anything else,the only time I turn is if someone upsets me with regard to my DCs or my DGCs.

I must say I'm rudest to people I like and icily polite to those I dislike. My friends know this and get worried if I start being very nice to them. Suspicious lot

I have found that being nice to someone who really doesn't appear to like you is a very powerful way to deal with it. I'm not referring to anyone on here, just talking generally.

I remember years ago, when sent as a temp to do some data processing work for a small company (I was only 20), and a very bitchy young woman spitefully asked me 'Why do you work for an agency? What do you do if you go somewhere and they can't stand you?' I replied 'Thank goodness that doesn't happen. Most people are as nice as this lovely office.' I caught two members of staff silently mouthing 'thank you!' out of the corner of my eye. I was well looked after for the two weeks I worked there.

anagram [rather naughty smile, actually!]

Well, if we're going to be pedantic, granbunny, what about the 'it's'?
You're right, you probably do deserve us, and we you!

granbunny, ?

This is a perfectly good humoured discussion as far as I'm concerned, ironing out the difficulties of understanding something that is open to different interpretations.

Indeed they are. Both ways. Print is more difficult to interpret than face to face interactions and even they sometimes have their problems.

you lot deserve each other. and i think it should be 'tail', not 'tale'.

as i don't intend to leave, perhaps i deserve you...

Those things are often a matter of perception, bagitha.

Ah. I thought the sting was that she didn't mean it and was only saying it to be sarcy. Besides, the poster mentioned has never made any show of not liking jings; she has just argued back.

Anagram that's exactly right. And petallus.

The sting, in my opinion, was that imjingl feels that there is a poster who doesn't like her much and she was prepared to mention it and then send love.

I really don't see why people are getting so het up about this. It's not as though the Vicar suggested being nice to someone you don't like much, which would put a whole new complexion on imjingl's post.

It's the waspishness that I object to. I saw the funny side too.

The original post seemed exactly like a joke to me, but with a bit of a sting in it's tale?