Forum etiquette.

I did say I would avoid this thread, but I have just trawled through the threads at the beginning of April and saw quite a few lovely warm welcomes extended to you granbunny. Perhaps if you check back it will remind you what they said at the time?

Here is a copy of Gransnet netiquette:

www.gransnet.com/info/netiquette

I had to search a bit to find it - perhaps it should more easily accessible?

I think most things are covered.

kittylester - i certainly am not here to 'stir things up' and i don't recall having said 'only joking' about anything, ever, in my life. sometimes jokes do need explaining, particularly online.

glassortwo, many people took part but i did not log their names - thank you for caring! i can't help but recall three in particular; their forum names, general nastiness and comments are burned into my brain and will take time to remove.

this isn't about me and my experience though. i simply use it as an example. nuttynana and others have said how warmly they were received. perhaps that level of warmth could be extended to everyone.

soop
no-one needs to 'make amends'. but thinking about the future, i do think a sticky somewhere about etiquette, preferably etiquette agreed by existing users, is a really good idea.
note, i am still here. it isn't just bloody-mindedness

I'm still here, and thank you all - but I needed to 'go private' on my profile.

*Granbunny

It is a shame that someone has obviously upset you on here but there seem to be a lot of people wanting to be friendly and it really is not fair to tar everyone with the same brush.*
absolutely true, nuttynana but as this is a thread about forum etiquette i think being nice to newbies should be included.

like, not reporting all their posts, even deeply innocuous ones?

butter where are you off too

super thank you for that bright smile, and I am as in my mind I can see the scene you can see before you, enjoy your G&T and the gorgeous view.

butter don't disappear! I'd miss you terribly!

So am I!

Butternut I'm so glad I saw you before you disappeared.

at your as well, soop! Have a lovely evening.

Soop night night at your location xx

glass before I go...a warm especially for you.
glamma the parties are a bit like us...on the wild side but good at heart.
Night night xx

...and now I'm logging off so that I can enjoy a lovely large G&T and watch the sea lap the shore of sunny Kintyre. A fond adieu to you all.

Oh dear can someone tell me what have I missed, dont think I have been anywhere so it must have gone straight over my head

I think Gransnet is made up of posters who all bring something different with them to the forums. On the whole I dont think anyone means to be disparaging of others, sometimes things do get a little heated but not I hope personal.

granbunny I am not sure which threads you refer to, but if I have been party to this thread and offence has been taken, I apologise.

I always welcome newcomers and hope I make them feel welcome.

I have been on Gransnet from Day 1 and I hope that we dont come across as said above 'be ruled by a handful of established posters' or 'cliquey'.

Soop I only joined GN to go to the parties.?

kittylester When I was a little girl, we used to sing the following at the tops of our voices...

'Here we are again
Happy as can be
All good pals and jolly good company...
Never mind the weather
Never mind the rain -
As long as we're together
Whoops she goes again...

Soop I suspect that our posts crossed!

I don't understand the point of joining a forum just to stir things up and have a go at people only to then say 'only joking' when challenged. Although I rarely get involved in 'spats', I find it quite unsettling when people are upset as I consider this forum, especially, is all about mutual support, lively debate and useful sharing of information. Oh and fashion advice, thank you all!!

I dislike people being pedantic about poor spelling or grammar because, as greatnan I think, pointed out the meaning is usually pretty clear anyway and things are often written in haste amongst doing other things (or even after a couple of !)

With apologies to my English teacher, the scary Miss Furness, for among a host of other things, both paragraphs starting with 'I'

And, finally, I love you all

That was my experience, too Butternut. It gets very unsettling to see allegations bandied about like this. I took a few days out recently, in the hope things would have settled down. I would rather keep a distance from this thread now.

Nonu scroll down to Smileys. If you want to add a smile just type the word enclosed in the following brackets [] and you get a . Likewise with the rest. Good luck

I've refrained from posting about this, because I have found my feelings quite sensitised by it all, and have felt discomforted.

I had experience growing confidence in this forum, and posted pictures of myself and my grandchildren, but have decided to delete them. Somehow that has reinstated a kind of protection for me. Just needed to say that, really.

Bring it on !!!! I would put on all the symbols but am afraid I haven"t cracked that yet

Granbunny

It is a shame that someone has obviously upset you on here but there seem to be a lot of people wanting to be friendly and it really is not fair to tar everyone with the same brush.
It would be a shame to spoil what could be a friendly, funny enjoyable experience for everyone. I would like to be your online friend and it seems lots of others do too. I haven't seen the posts that have upset you and I am sure it must have been traumatic for you.

Like soop says there is more than enough kindness on here to go round. It is like love-- it never runs out

What I want to know is...where's that bagitha when you need her?