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It never rains bit it blinkin' pours!

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merlotgran Fri 15-Jun-12 21:55:27

Plough on indeed, Mishap

It never rains, it blinkin pours, that’s what we grans all say,
Our lives can be a whirlpool, whatever comes our way.
We mind the sprogs, we walk thedogs,
We mop the fevered brow.
We give advice, some not so nice,
It all gets done…..somehow.
Supermarket shopping can add to all the stress,
You need to push the trolley helped by Nurofen Express
We’re getting on, our youth has gone,
We think we’re going to crack….but
A visit to the hairdresser soon gets us back on track.
Our laptops are a lifeline, they help us keep in touch,
To offer words of comfort if it all becomes too much.
Logging on to Gransnet can keep the woes at bay.
Forget the house just click that mouse
And fight another day.

This isn't meant to sound trite. Keep the faith, everyone.

kittylester Fri 15-Jun-12 20:52:32

Thank you Hilda but I'm not feeling stressed or in need of support, I know I have it a lot easier than lots of people but, it dawned on me what a lot was going on when I actually thought about it.

Something I forgot was that 74 year old brother in law is going to leave his (2nd) wife. A swings and roundabouts thing really - we didn't like his first wife, this one was worse, so heaven knows what the next will be like but he always confides in my husband who also has all the above going on, plus me talking about it and working part-time!

HildaW Fri 15-Jun-12 19:29:54

kittylester, you are amazing. Hope you do get the odd chance to have time for yourself, or just have a little something thats a treat.....its important. All the best XX

nanaej Fri 15-Jun-12 19:24:40

hats off to you kitty flowers

My life is a lot less difficult and for that I am very grateful.

But maybe I had tricky time at a different stage of my life.
I was in my early 30's with two young children working full time and studying too . Within a period of 6 years:
-both parents died in their early 60's
-I had very difficult marriage issues to cope with which took a good 2-3 years to sort.
-My young brother got married
-My nephew was born very prematurely & ill and I needed to support bro and SiL,
-Elderly aunt (I was main local carer as my cousin lived miles away) needed care as she descended into dementia
-Bro & SiL separated and bro suffered severe depression
-I learned to drive
-I gained a masters degree
I had a really great 40th birtday party & since then I have to say life got a lot better...fingers crossed hmm

Mishap Fri 15-Jun-12 19:13:22

A very full life! - plough on!

Sounds like a mix of good and bad - I think this is the experience of us all. We just carry on and concentrate on the good bits - what else can we do?

JessM Fri 15-Jun-12 19:10:06

Is this called "having a full life" do you think?

kittylester Fri 15-Jun-12 18:58:47

This thread is really as a result of gracesmum's and I know lots of people on here have thoroughly difficult lives for which I give them huge respect and admiration.

But, it started me thinking about what is going on in my life at the moment and how much we Mums/Grans cope with (and I don't really think I have much to complain about) so here goes -

I do voluntary work one day a week.

My Mum is in residential care suffering from dementia. I try to go 3 times in a fortnight and am responsible for buying her clothes and 'bits and pieces', keeping an eye on the state of her room and clothes and complaining if things aren't good (ie - most visits!) I ensure she has enough money etc. I am not an only one but the others are male!! grin

Our eldest son had a major stroke, got divorced, so came to live with us. He is now fit enough to move into an adapted flat. He is not fit enough to do the decorating, shopping, initial cleaning etc on his own.

I look after our eldest daughter's children one day per week.
Our middle daughter, her partner and baby came to stay for two weeks between houses - 3 months ago!

Youngest daughter has a very difficult baby, is moving house in two weeks and getting married in 4 weeks!

That is the fun part!!

One of my husband's oldest friends (they were at dental school together, shared a house, got drunk together etc) has stomach cancer and is too ill to have chemo.

One of my best friends has got Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma and her husband has kidney failure.

Our next door neighbour (a widower) has quite possibly got bladder cancer.

The dog had periodic paralysis and the cat keeps bringing in half chewed birds and frogs!

And to top it all two daughters and I are booked on a flipping hat making course!!

I imagine that I am far from unique and we generally just get on with things but I do wish I hadn't thought about it!!

winewinewine oops that's this weeks allocation gone!!