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I was very rude today (not like me at all)

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j04 Tue 19-Jun-12 09:26:12

Yes. That did sound self righteous didn't it. hmm

I still think a more considered answer would have been better. frida's name is going to be mud now amongst the neighbours! grin

Annobel Tue 19-Jun-12 09:22:30

jingle, it's easy to be self-righteous after the event. I'm sure we all think if the 'right' response later, but I know my instinct would have been, at the very least, to tell him to mind his own business and then maybe park a couple of old cars in the garden as well.

j04 Tue 19-Jun-12 09:08:44

I think I would have taken more pleasure in explaining to him that you have already paid the council to take it away but that after two weeks they have still not taken it.

If you had been politely concerned, it would have taken the wind out of his sails much more effectively.

Why are you on such a short fuse at the moment?

flowerfriend Tue 19-Jun-12 08:20:41

Would he have spoken to you like that if you had been a man?

nelliedeane Tue 19-Jun-12 07:37:40

Good for you fridawhat was he doing nosing round your back garden any way,I am normally laid back but an incident a few days ago with a sad little man a few days ago regarding children in the street and my GD in particular who was guilt free had me hollering like a fish wife lol

whenim64 Tue 19-Jun-12 07:04:27

frida don't regret what you said - to come to your door with that attitude is unfair. He has made assumptions without knowing what you have done about the machine being collected - he is the one who should have regrets. He could just as easily have come to your door and asked you if you needed help or information about getting it collected.

Bags Tue 19-Jun-12 06:39:19

Don't worry, frida. Mind you, I'd feel the same as you do! I expect it was an expression of your frustration with the council for not getting a move on and your neighbour was rude anyway. It looks like one of those "if only" moments: if only a reply such as "Oh, please do contact the council! It might make them hurry up and collect it, which they said they'd do weeks ago!" had come into your mind. But I expect it didn't because of the neighbour's churlishness in implying that you were bringing the neighbourhood down. Stupid man.

Greatnan Tue 19-Jun-12 06:38:18

Good for you!

Ella46 Tue 19-Jun-12 06:25:01

Oh Frida don't you worry! Everyone is allowed to lose it sometimes.smile
It's usually much more effective when you are not usually like that. grin

frida Tue 19-Jun-12 00:12:23

Don't know what came over me. I have a broken washing machine that I have put out into the back garden so that the local council can come and take it away for re-cycling or whatever they do with them. It has to be easily accessible but not in front of your house or on the pavement. I put it to the side, not in the middle of the lawn. Paid them £12 to do so two weeks ago and still waiting, not really concerned, they are usually a bit slow. This afternoon a man who lives down the street came and knocked on my door and said it was a bloody disgrace having a broken washing machine in the back garden, that this was a nice estate and not 'Shameless' and if it wasn't moved in the next 24 hours he would report me to the council for creating an eyesore! I said two words to him , the second was 'off' and the first had four letters, then I shut the door in his face. I just flipped and dont understand it. I never swear and am usually quite laid back.