Almost a prayer!

So sorry to hear your news learnergran - I really hope that Thursday brings good news for both of you .
Keep talking to us here and please let us know how you get on, the support from everyone here is just incredible - you're not alone

thoughts are with youlearnergran

Learnergran my sister was diagnosed with stomach cancer over 10 years ago. Last year she bought herself a new car to celebrate being a cancer survivor! I hope your DH is able to do the same.

Learnergran

learner Praying for you and Mr L. Probably good he doesn't believe it why don't you plan a good night out tomorrow?

Thank you.
Following an endoscopy and biopsies he has been told he has stomach cancer, which is what both his parents died of in their sixties. He is 64. He doesn't believe it and says he has never felt better.
Scan tomorrow for stage and spread and will hear on Thursday if they are able to operate.
Having to talk calmly to the girls has calmed me.
It all just seems totally unreal.
Thank you so much for your supporting posts. I can't tell you how much it means.

Sorry to hear your news Learnergran but medical know-how is improving all the time

I wrote some poems once. Put 'em on Mumsnet. But then they decided to scrap the topic. Bye bye poems.

They were probably crap anyway.

Learnergran, will say a little prayer for your DH. It's all I can do.

Modern medicine and treatments can do marvels these days. x

Thank you so much everyone for your kindness. I've had to shut myself in the bathroom for a bit of a cry.
I've also told both DD (not DS yet - will have to work up to that) and had a long talk to both of them over the phone, which has helped enormously. There is nobody here I can talk to.
We will know more on Thursday - not long to wait.

learner so sorry to hear that and I do hope the outcome will be positive. I know how devastated I would feel if it were me DH.

All though he can be a bugger at times...which is fine ...so can I

learnergran so glad you felt able to get those words out on here,now we can support you when things get tough.sending strength to you and your husband

greatnan really loved that heartfelt poem...think God must have smiled on me the day I met my other half who is all of those things,think he thought if he was going to give me a load to carry,he would send me someone to share the load with he is my rock

Greatnan I enjoyed the poem. I had a happy second marriage. He was almost perfect...............just enough not perfect to be real.
Learnergran Cancer is not a death sentence. The husband of a close friend was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer two years ago. They have just returned from a cruise holiday. He is back in work and walks his dog and does the garden. However, my husband died nearly two years ago after two operations for a cancer in the bladder. One op. to remove the bladder and one to sort out complications. But he was 81 and I think that two long operations were just too much for his body.
I hope you can be strong for your husband but also for yourself. Remember to take care of yourself as well as him. Hugs. xx

Learner so sorry, we are all with you whenever you need us xx

Learnergran it's so difficult to put into words the feelings you have when someone you love gets a diagnosis like cancer. It's as though whatever you try to say belittles what you want to express, but in time you will find yourself talking about it and other aspects of your lives, and you will get lots of support on here, as you know. Each day brings something different - little signs for optimism and more information about how you will manage things together. Take care x

Learner (((hugs))) so sorry.

Learnergran

Learnergran - I am sure there will be many people here who have been in your position and will be able to offer you advice - I can only give you my deep sympathy.

learner sorry to hear about your DH {{{hugs}}}

jeni {{{hugs}}}

hello jeni just popped in before I retire (to bed that is) sleep well all !

Which I'm sure you do! (she add hastily!)

I like that poem Greatnan.

I don't think you're likely to find it all in a man though. Better to try to find it in yourself.

Thank you Jeni

Thanks.
Learner gran. If I can help, pm me.
My husband died. From cancer. I've been there.
I am cognisant of benefits etc:
If I can help, let me know.

Learner - I am so sorry to hear about your husband.