Almost a prayer!

Sounds like my late husband! (almost) he wasn't quite that perfect, but almost. I'm missing him!

Thank you for sharing that Jeni
It would be good to know there are a few of those around.

Sorry, I meant Greatnan.
And Jeni too of course.
Those of us who find it difficult to come clean are grateful to those who do, so we know we are not alone.

I meant about loneliness.

Thank you, Learnergran - I am not lonely, even though I live alone. I love my freedom. If I had met the kind of man I wanted in my 40's and 50's I might well have decided to compromise, but as I didn't, in spite of very many relationships, I made a very satisfying life for myself here in France.
However, I am looking forward to living in New Zealand, in my daugher's garden, in about three years because we get on so well and enjoy the same things.

I am lonely now! But I fill up my time.
It's 9years since Peter died and on the whole I've managed to cope.
Being disabled as well doesn't make life easier.

Sorry folks don't know why I'm so blue this evening, apart from the fact I was discussing sailing with the outlaws yesterday at GDDs 1st party and it took me back to our sailing years

I'm at work tomorrow! And the rest of the week. So won't have time to feel sorry for myself!

Or probably to post

Love to you all!

Yes, Greatnan, I know that you are not lonely, and I agree that there is a world of difference between "alone" and "lonely". I just meant that for many of us it is hard to admit to ourselves, let alone others, that often our lives are lonely and that the company of someone such as you describe so well would make such a difference.
It is easy to make light comments, or to sympathise with others, but hard to say that you have problems too.
I have been trying for some days to say that my DH has been diagnosed with cancer but my thoughts are so jumbled, and I do not seem to be able to form a coherent thought let alone express it.
It helps that there are people who do manage to share their thoughts - reading them makes people like me feel less alone.

And love to you, too, jeni. I admire you tenacity.

jeni - Oh - and a {{hug}} ....

Learner - I am so sorry to hear about your husband.

Thanks.
Learner gran. If I can help, pm me.
My husband died. From cancer. I've been there.
I am cognisant of benefits etc:
If I can help, let me know.

Thank you Jeni

I like that poem Greatnan.

I don't think you're likely to find it all in a man though. Better to try to find it in yourself.

Which I'm sure you do! (she add hastily!)

hello jeni just popped in before I retire (to bed that is) sleep well all !

learner sorry to hear about your DH {{{hugs}}}

jeni {{{hugs}}}

Learnergran - I am sure there will be many people here who have been in your position and will be able to offer you advice - I can only give you my deep sympathy.

Learnergran

Learner (((hugs))) so sorry.

Learnergran it's so difficult to put into words the feelings you have when someone you love gets a diagnosis like cancer. It's as though whatever you try to say belittles what you want to express, but in time you will find yourself talking about it and other aspects of your lives, and you will get lots of support on here, as you know. Each day brings something different - little signs for optimism and more information about how you will manage things together. Take care x

Learner so sorry, we are all with you whenever you need us xx

Greatnan I enjoyed the poem. I had a happy second marriage. He was almost perfect...............just enough not perfect to be real.
Learnergran Cancer is not a death sentence. The husband of a close friend was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer two years ago. They have just returned from a cruise holiday. He is back in work and walks his dog and does the garden. However, my husband died nearly two years ago after two operations for a cancer in the bladder. One op. to remove the bladder and one to sort out complications. But he was 81 and I think that two long operations were just too much for his body.
I hope you can be strong for your husband but also for yourself. Remember to take care of yourself as well as him. Hugs. xx

learnergran so glad you felt able to get those words out on here,now we can support you when things get tough.sending strength to you and your husband

greatnan really loved that heartfelt poem...think God must have smiled on me the day I met my other half who is all of those things,think he thought if he was going to give me a load to carry,he would send me someone to share the load with he is my rock

All though he can be a bugger at times...which is fine ...so can I