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AlieOxon Sun 12-Aug-12 19:03:19

I just learned my eldest grandson's girlfriend is probably pregnant. My daughter is in shock, I'm in shock - and so is he!
Is it quite definite? We aren't sure yet.
Oh lord.
It hasn't been that steady a relationship.....

Elegran Sun 12-Aug-12 19:27:43

It may get steadier, Alie Responsibility for another life can make a relationship put down roots.

glassortwo Sun 12-Aug-12 19:30:11

Alie A baby brings its own love. I was a Grandma at 38... my son 16yrs and his girlfriend of two weeks that's all it lasted was 15. Three months later found she was pregnant. But my DGD turned 18 in July and I would not change a thing she brought her love with her. But at the time I was devastated!

glassortwo Sun 12-Aug-12 19:34:18

My son and his ex girlfriend have never had a relationship since that two weeks at the time of conception,but they have both been there for DGD and that is all I asked for.

Butternut Sun 12-Aug-12 19:38:46

glass What a positive and loving way to accept your grand-daughter. sunshine

Annobel Sun 12-Aug-12 19:38:53

I could say much the same as glass except that my DS was 20. Now my much loved GD is almost 21, he is happily married to my wonderful DiL with two more children and she gets on well with all of them. I wouldn't have it any other way.

AlieOxon Sun 12-Aug-12 19:53:14

He's 24 but not all that mature....I guess I just cross my fingers and hope!
I've never met the girlfriend.
- Thanks for support here folks.

I just had to calm my daughter down as she feels she needs to know for definite, and it won't happen yet - she says now, she will have to keep her mouth shut and wait!

glassortwo Sun 12-Aug-12 20:00:28

alie it will be fine, try to reassure your DD you think it is the worst nightmare you could imagine but honestly it will be fine. Get her to PM me if it will help.

jeni Sun 12-Aug-12 20:12:00

It's not the first time in history it's happened. And it won't be the last.in our day it was considered shocking. Not now!
Think f it as a lovely new life coming into the world!
My grandmother kept on st me that all her friends were great grand mothers and she wasnt!
Her beam when I told her I was pregnant was incredible!

grrrranny Sun 12-Aug-12 20:33:54

It seems like a disaster but as jeni says not the first nor last time it will happen. With everyone pulling together then it will make sure this new life is nurtured and loved which is all that matters. It will still be hard for the young parents though - and I think that is why people worry.

harrigran Sun 12-Aug-12 21:14:20

24 is not that young to be having a baby, it was fairly normal when we were having our families. Should be mature enough to cope smile

Mishap Sun 12-Aug-12 21:23:42

Twenty four is fine for being a Dad - it may be the making of him - a new life is a joy!