Some of you will already have heard about my mum but -
The only way we could persuade her to sell her own flat and go into residential care was by appealing to the snob in her. She, therefore, moved into a fairly expensive home which looks like a hotel. It was only 3 months old when Mum moved in so we had no way of checking the track record. The CQC eventually visited 6 months later!!
In his work, my husband visits lots of Homes (and homes!!) and gets a feel for the really good ones. Mum (aided and abetted by one of my brothers - also a snob!!) plumped for the one that looked flashest (not the one DH suggested) and now her dementia is getting so bad that we cannot move her.
The home is based on an American model whereby one pays for a bedroom/ sitting room with an en-suite wet room (some have a separate lounge and kitchen but are hugely expensive) All meals are provided, as is laundry, room cleaning and lots of activities and entertainment. If extra care is called for this is given by arrangement and charged separately.
She is currently paying for an extra 90 minutes per day for Mum which is to include helping her dress after her shower, which she manages herself, in clean clothes and ensuring she is wearing a tena-type pad.
I went to visit Mum at 10.30 this morning to find her sitting in just her pants trying to work out how to fasten her bra.
My brothers and I have regular 'well-being' meetings with the manager and, because we get nowhere with her, we now meet one of the directors on a regular basis too.
I have no idea why I am posting this but I feel much better for having a rant.
Thank you all for listening!
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