Do you ever feel intimidated?

Here is a post *absent made earlier in the day:

'I should like to point out – at the risk of a lot of flak – that some posters delight in being victims, moaning, whining and complaining about being intimidated or, even more irritatingly, complaining,, as a self-appointed spokesman, about other people being intimidated. They also burble on about personal abuse when there has been no such thing and are awfully good at the Tony Blair defence (defending themselves or others against an accusation that has never been made). Not you Nanadogsody.

They know who they are; I know who they are (even when they have changed their names). It is just so incredibly predictable and massively boring. It's not a "back off" emoticon that is needed but a "get a life" emoticon'

So, is that okay then? I found it quite threatening (hints but not naming anyone)

Fay, I agree with you entirely.

I thought everyone was going away friends!

Shame on you all for starting it up again! NanaD did explain away her trio as a family of hawks and had taken the point that it could be seen as a barb. Which I had done too and I am not quick to see an insult. It shocked me too, but I am ready to accept that it was a misplaced joke. Can no-one else?

Absent I have every sympathy for you feeling a bit bruised but I felt that the conversation was closed and you opened it again with your comment. I though we were all agreed not to appear plaintive?

Absent Bags Jeni Butter Baubles A pm would have soothed absent without throwing down the gauntlet again and inviting the "clique" criticism yet again.

Faye The same applies. When the exchange is over, shut up and move on.

Now you can all reply angrily to me. Sheesh! why bother to pour oil on troubled water?

ps - In the time it has taken me to post this (I started just after Faye's at 18.06) several others have echoed what I was saying. Could you just all please have a truce? Or should we ask the UN to send in a peacekeeping force?

I would second barrow.

Please pm me about that, faye. I suspect we disagreed with you strongly but separately, rather than ganging up on you. Just because three people agree with each other and not with another doesn't mean there is any ganging up. I would like to know exactly what we said that upset you, please. I really don't think we were deliberately nasty and I'm sorry that you felt otherwise. I am sending kind regards with this.

Hear! hear! Barrow

Can I suggest we close this thread and leave it all behind and start again fresh with no hard feelings on either side? Gransnet is better than this

No baggy it's cliquey when someone is being mean to someone and their friends join in, that's ganging up. In fact, you, soop and absent did it to me on one of my first posts, so do not deny it. Absent is a poster I always avoid, she has only ever sniped at me the whole time I have been on Gransnet.

Thank you, crimson. And no, that isn't cliquey either. If we were all in a room together, I'd say the same things in front of everyone.

I wondered if I was one of the other hawks. And I was upset. I felt intimidated. You will see if you want to check that I haven't posted on this thread for most of the day. Guess why.

If someone thinks I have bullied them, I'd much rather they were open about it, because I certainly never intend it.

I feel that someone is trying to put a wedge between people on here . I really don't know what's going on because I don't know who is being accused in the first place of being intimidating and, from what I've read thus far,Bags and absent have just tried to smooth things over. Then, everything they say is leapt on and taken out of context. I'm totally bemused by it all. It's not cliquey to defend someone who you feel is being treated unjustly; but that's just my opinion. I don't understand what's happening.

It's friendship, faye, and the people who complain over and over again are jealous because such friendships have developed. If they were less antagonistic they could join in the friendships. No-one is excluding them; if they feel excluded, it is their own perception, not something imposed by other gransnetters.

Gransnet is us. Why not just ......stop?

Sorry, I meant butternut. It's such a shame people feel got at sometimes, I believe we can all get on, we just have to be mindful to not keep on about things and have a bit of empathy!

Yes, cliquey!

I've read through the last few threads because I am somewhat baffled. Is absent feeling intimidated because of the trio of hawks joke?

If so, why? Does absent think she is one of the hawks? Who are the other two and why are they not upset?

Also, having been told ad nauseum that no intimidation goes on on Gransnet, how come all of a sudden it is accepted that it does?

I'm not sure how Gransnet is going to pull itself out of all of this bad feeling!

It's cliquey baubles

Go back and retread some other posts and threads baggy and you will see when nanadb was new on here and more recently. She did not start this thread for no reason. I think it is best to completely ignore people who get at you and just don't answer them. AlisonM and others have been treated the same way. I have been astounded at some previous comments on many threads, I can point it out next time it happens, if you can't see it.

I've just caught up with this thread. Nanadogsbody I think you've gone too far, that remark was completely uncalled for.

absent

It's friendship, Faye.

No, faye. It's open support for someone who is being intimidated. I was shocked by the trio of hawks reference.

If that is not ganging up and cliquey I don't know what is.

And mine!

Mine too, absent.

absent An arm around your shoulder.

No nanadogs I think you have crossed a line. Goodbye.