When GNetters leave us

'her' of course - oh for an edit button!

She resigned, merlot - the things she was being asked to do on her first day or two were beyond belief! I do hope she doesn't feel she's failed in any way...but here Gransnet account is no more.

I remember littlenellie posting that she was starting a new job in October and it sounded as if her hours might be long. Added to her family commitments, maybe she doesn't have time for Gnet at the moment. I do hope she comes back.

Elegran The way you say 'we' perhaps Forum, in the case of Gransnet, should be changed to Clique: A small group of people with shared interests, who spend time together and exclude others.
Should it be made clear to newcomers that, rather like walking into the Wednesday afternoon Old Folks Club at the Community Centre, they will be scrutnised superficially, and accepted or found wanting?

I hope not. I maybe picking the wrong threads. There are probably whole other collections of people, doing Forum things, elsewhere on Gransnet.

And we don't tend to take ourselves seriously a lot of the time. No Mr/Mrs Pooters on here.

Nice one, Lily. Sorry, Daman, but your idea of a Forum does sound terribly boring and I suspect more people would opt out of Gransnet if it was as dull as that!

Someone said on another thread not-to-be-reverted to, how polite and pleasant Gransnet was compared to many other forums. I agree completely with that view. Think what happened to Caesar. In the Forum.

Elegran ...yet more words of wisdom.

Actually, Daman we on Gransnet do consider the forum to be like chatting to friends at our own fireside. We treat each other as we do our friends - talking about many topics, sometimes passionately, sometimes supporting one another through troubles and trauma. We are as polite as we would be to people we are going to meet again and again (apart from an occasional spat!) and sometimes we are able to discuss things more frankly that with those nearest to us at home.

It has always been my opinion that families should not have lower standards when treating one another than they would when dealing with others - not be "a caus'y saint and a hoose de'il" That is, one who is a saint in the street and a devil to his family.

This is frequently discussed on Gransnet, Daman. I think that on the whole we have a good balance midway between confrontational and anodyne, but some people are extremely sensitive. It is difficult to keep up lively and deep discussions while avoiding all trace of criticism.

Daman Once again, it is hugely difficult to understand what on earth you are saying. Could you please try a little bit harder to make your comments clearer.

Gransnet is a social forum. People will drift in and out. It's not sad if someone loses interest and drifts off somewhere else It is a bit sad if they feel that they are no longer welcome here, but that is their choice

No Daman I think I meant that if I (or anybody else) have/ has upset anyone I would prefer to be contacted or replied to direct and explain.
I think I understand the principle of a forum , but I also know that many of us have formed friendships within the context of GransNet.This seems to be getting back to the previous "argument" about intimidation and I have no intention of raking over those coals again.
There may be many reasons for leaving, as JessM says, perhaps a change of identity has become necessary, perhaps a change in home circumstances has been the motivating factor. I do not wish to pry, but when a member has shared some of their troubles and apparently welcomed our support it is sad not to be able to continue that if wished for.

Forum: A meeting or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged.

A Forum is primarily a listening and sensibly responding place. It is not our living room or our club of friends where we can say what we like
We need to be sensitive (I Know)

When I read some of the comments made on Gransnet they appear harsh or personal or trivial sniping - and outside the definition of Forum.

People will leave because it was 'something I/we said' If by that you mean something out of order on a Forum

And maybe they are still with us, or shortly to return, under a different name. There have been many instances of this that I know of, for instance when a relative has "sussed" their GN identity.

I agree, it is a bit of a worry!

Well said gracesmum
from me too.