What I did today.

Oh Marelli how sad

oh marelli what a very sad visit for you. Makes you think, we must enjoy what we have.

Thank you for your lovely comments. . I thought a lot about J last night. Her illness has appeared over the last month and we hadn't known even that she was ill. We live in the same area, but tend just to bump into one another only when in town, and stand talking for ages, catching up. She and her DH are always together and it was when I met her DH on his own last week that I found out that she was ill.
I just kept thinking last night that if he hears about going in to hospital for his own operation, he won't be able to be near J in her last days. When we came home DH and I felt 'quiet', if you know what I mean.......?

Just caught up whilst eating b/fast porridge.

Some good news (lovely wedding photos), some not so good -refusing to say bad- Builders 'revised' estimates, illness and more.
for all.

Have had friends to stay, we enjoyed Racing (Badgers Ales.... Crimson) and bird watching. Thanks to T.V. our favourite site is now inundated, so far the starlings seem unaffected by the crowd murmuration!

MIL (Port Talbot) sounded like Gladys Morgan but never said 'look you', altho' she often said:
'Now, in a minute.'
FIL always said 'mun' after most things e.g. 'Leave it alone, mun'.
Coming from a 'different' country (N.Wales, Jess) I thought this quite amusing.......at first!

Marelli

(((hugs))) Marelli how sad for you and your friend's family.
soop hope all looks brighter this morning
nightowl 63 is really no age at all and your aunt must have felt there should have been so much more time.
crimson how are the chooks?

Thank you nanadog it was a sad thing, and she was a lovely auntie. She was only 63.

Perhaps she's scared of dying alone without her husband as he is also ill?

nightowl just read your post. What a sad thing that must have been, fr both you and your aunt

marelli
crimson hope the chickens are ok.

Oh Marelli how very sad. I'm sure it must have helped your cousin's wife to see you but how hard it is to see someone so afraid. I have never forgotten my auntie many years ago looking at me as you describe and saying 'I don't want to die'. I didn't know what to say. Do take care of yourself

And soop I am hoping for good news for you tomorrow

How sad for you Marelli

It was the fuel - and he's home safe, and forgiven me. And himself. Never believe a 10 year old car when the dashboard controls tell you there is another 10 miles in the tank !!!

Oh, Marelli what a poignant moment for you. That is a long time to have known someone. x

I'd heard that one of the main reasons for an emergency call out was to people who had put diesel into a petrol car

I'd imagine one of the main reasons for call outs is no fuel. I learned my lesson about that years ago when I let an old car we had run very low on petrol. All the mucky stuff at the bottom of the fuel tank caused all sorts of problems..the car was awful to drive, kept cutting out etc. Hope the road he's broken down on isn't too dark and dangerous. At least he a]had his mobile with him and b] it was charged up. Brownie points for that.

I meant RNIB.

Today I visited DH's cousin's wife in the local cottage hospital. J is in her mid 70's and has always been a busy little woman - dashing about doing things for the church and RBIB. A few weeks ago she was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumour. A couple of weeks before that, her husband was diagnosed with a tumour on his lung. I'm just so glad that I went to see her today, but I don't think I'll ever forget how hard she held my hand and how searchingly she looked into my eyes. I've known her since I was eight-years-old.

He's a man - calling out breakdown through lack of fuel not a good idea - bad for macho. He'll get over it. He needs to call breakdown.

Even if it is caused by low fuel, as it's diesel you can't just top it up and restart the engine, the whole system would need bleeding which is a complicated procedure. I'm with you on this one Jess - he should have called the breakdown service. That's what you pay for anyway. Let us know what happens. . . .

Am in doghouse. This does not often happen. DH rang about half an hour ago. He has broken down on an A road about 15 miles away and thinks it is because he let fuel get too low. He is tired and frazzled. Thinks the best solution is that I go to petrol station , buy diesel and then find him on a road in dark. I suggest that the sensible thing to do is to call out the breakdown service that we have paid for and let them rescue him. This seemed logical to me because if it was not fuel low, then he would have to call breakdown anyway. So going straight to breakdown service probably best. But was not right answer. I am debating with myself what I would be thinking in his shoes. I think i would go straight for the breakdown service option. but he is feeling it is his own stupid fault, and they might charge him for callout.

soop - I've only just logged on and seen your post. I'm so vexed for you (as they say around these parts). It would make it so much worse because you couldn't tell Mr soop, too. Tomorrow is another day, and it might just not seem quite so bad (not a lot of comfort for you just now). You've got lots of warm arms around your shoulders just now - you do know that, don't you, soop? xx

Good news glass glad to hear GS had a good night.
I am back from looking after GD, she was less boisterous than on Tuesday, I think being in her own home is less exciting than running round Grandma's. GD1 came in from school and had a strop because I told her she couldn't paint her face black why would she want to ? She was going to swimming club as soon as her mum got in from work. She also informed me there is a teacher training day next week and she thought she would come and stay. I told her that Mum was not at work that day and she would be at home .... slam, stomp, stomp. I thought teenage started at 13 not seven.

So sorry soop but we found that building regulations are so strict now that costs do escalate.Every time the building inspector came he told the builder to change or add something. Like topsy it just grew and grew. Our extension was the price of a new build house and we would never be able to sell because nobody would pay what it is worth.

It's been a right bummer of a day. My friends on Gransnet have kept me sane. Bless you. Tomorrow is another day. I shall return. Big hugs to everyone.