Can I just warn any lurkers out there...........

I often write things in the heat of the moment and usually think better of it and don't post them, as I expect most of us do anyway.

I'm intrigued - Gransnet is a commercial enterprise, when you have decided amongst yourselves the content, frequency and wording of the posts, not to mention standards of grammar and spelling, who is going to enforce the rules?

Gransnet, to be financially viable depends on numbers. If standards are too high, surely you will harm the business as new members will be put off.

When I first joined, one of the first threads I read was headed 'do you feel intimidated' or something similar. That was a long thread and it was fairly apparent that many people did indeed feel intimidated. From what I have read since I can see there is a genuine core of posters who are supportive and helpful. That's wonderful to see. Some, however I would describe as prigs.

Possibly my post is actually saying exactly the same as Jo5

How can a public forum be talking about someone behind their back? Or asking them a direct question?

The Klingon has been detected and is about to be deleted from the starboard bow. I hope this doesn't cause further upset. Some grannies are just too soft-hearted. I am appallingly gullible and tend to take things at face value (that's why it's so easy to take the p– out of me) but I am probably fundamentally nasty so don't get deluded into offering sympathy and understanding to incubi Klingons.

I like Jings' straightforwardness too, and I was in fact, talking to her even though I referred to her as "she" - sorry, I was always told as a child that "she " is the cat's grandmother.

I imagine she is looking at this, even though she has not posted again, and I hope she sees that she is indeed valued a great deal - and comes back refreshed and less jaded than she has been the last few days.

for Jingle. I don't think it is polite to discuss anyone, would you do it if a person was chatting to you in real life. Yes my ex MIL would, she would say to my ex FIL 'hark at her Jack,' about me. She was very rude and my ex husband warned me that his mother was spiteful. She was...

I agree with Bags, that it's not really on to talk about jingl behind her back, as it were. You wouldn't discuss any other member like that!

Ach, the OP is only a bit of harmless teasing

Yes, glass, or the GC's sweeties

Well, she is getting attention now, which I think is something she really enjoys. Otherwise, she wouldn't post something like the OP , would she? I hope it didn't put off any potential new posters.

I'll second soop's remark. I like jings' straightforwardness, even though I had to learn to get used to it. I'll add that I don't think it's altogether polite to talk about jings like this; different if you were talking to her

jingle just need a piece of cake that will cheer her up

I think she's very out of sorts today. I hope she's feeling a lot better when she comes back.

Soop - I think that is a reflection of your own very kind heart!

I think that, although Jings manages to upset folk from time to time, she is, at heart, a kind person.

Jingle usually makes me smile - I prefer someone who says what they think straight out!

She posts what has just floated to the top of her mind. Often it is witty and to the point, but sometimes it should have been skimmed off and discarded.

Exactly what I was asking her, Greatnan Everyone could say that it was a joke whenever they sent a barb at anyone else. That puts the receiver of the barb into the wrong. A handy strategy.

JO often makes me laugh with the way she puts things, gets straight to the heart of the matter, and often says just what I was thinking.
At other times she's downright rude and short-sighted.
Are there two JOs?

As a sometimes target of jingle's comments, I have to say that I just shrug them off. We are all used to her getting attention by saying 'outrageous' things. But of course it always turns out that she was joking.

As I suspect there's a Clingon or whatever you want to call 'it' on the starboard bow as we speak!

Sigh

J; can I just ask something? Do you ever understand that your comments hurt people? I'm just curious, that's all, especially as you say you don't like other people being 'jibed'.

I don't get uptight if anyone offends me personally. I can give as good as I get.

Don't like other people being jibed at for no reason.

Gotta go out now.

Backson

jo5 why is it that you love being jokey (or even insulting) about other people, and threaten to use an acronym that you clearly feel will offend, but you get uptight when anyone else says anything that you don't like? No-one is getting at you, please don't get at others.

Are you due to for another rest from posting while your obviously irritable spell subsides?

And if you take offence at that gentle suggestion - then it is definitely time to rethink your current sensitivity.