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Am I a drudge?

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Anne58 Mon 26-Nov-12 15:32:56

Well, VQ I don't think you are a drudge! My husband has to live away during the week, as he too couldn't find a job locally. When he is home I like to cook good meals for him, and generally let him know that he's appreciated.

jO5 Mon 26-Nov-12 15:32:50

I don't suppose you are a 'drudge' as such! Sounds horrible!

I wouldn't get up at 4 am though. Do his sarnies the night before, and let him get himself off.

Agree about the evening meal. He's entitled to that.

vampirequeen Mon 26-Nov-12 15:29:24

I've just been called a drudge. I didn't think I was but a young woman of my aquaintance thinks I am. This is because I get up at 4am with my husband and whilst he's getting ready to go to work I prepare his breakfast and his pack up. Then we sit and have a coffee until he goes to work at 4.45am. After he leaves I lay on the sofa and go back to sleep for a few more hours.

During the day I do the normal things.....clean, cook ...all the housework. I try to have the house looking nice and his tea ready for when he gets home around 8pm.

My young friend thinks I do too much for him but I look at it differently. He works 60 miles away because he couldn't get a job locally. He also works split shifts....6am to 8am and 3pm to 6pm. He's not able to come home so has to kick his heels in the big shopping centre and generally pass the time between shifts as best he can without spending money. I don't leave the house so it makes sense to me that if he's out for all those hours every day working or waiting to work then I should make sure he comes home to a comfortable home and a cooked meal.

It's not that he never does anything in the house ...it's just that I think he works hard enough already so I try to make sure he doesn't have to.

What do you think? Am I a drudge or are we each taking a share in our own way?