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On being called Darling and Love

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Judy54 Sat 23-May-26 13:57:00

I have no objection to being addressed as darling or love except when it is on repeat! I recently met friends at a restaurant for lunch and was greeted by the front of house as hello darling. I said I was meeting friends and she said okay lovely lets see if we can find them, oh here they are darling. Taking our orders was the same we were all repeatedly addressed as darling or lovey, what happened to Madam? We felt that we were being treated as daft little old ladies, I may be little but am far from daft! Would you find this condescending?

Dylis Sat 23-May-26 14:05:04

I get cheesed off with it. I find it horribly condescending. I have learnt to answer crisply with whatever condescending title I have been given.

Luckygirl3 Sat 23-May-26 14:06:14

I can live with it! I have a Geordie SIL who calls me pet!

nanna8 Sat 23-May-26 14:07:47

They’re probably just trying to be friendly. It wouldn’t worry me. We usually get you guys or, sometimes, darl.

twaddle Sat 23-May-26 14:09:46

I think it's a regional thing. Where my daughter lives, everybody is called "luv", whether they're young, old, male or female. I certainly don't take it personally.

Magenta8 Sat 23-May-26 14:13:07

My FIL always used to call me dux. He did it so often I ceased to notice it.

Autumncolours Sat 23-May-26 14:18:44

I rather like it though in our part of Yorkshire everyone is addressed as ‘love’ no matter the age or gender. It would be a shame if regional quirks like this disappeared.

MissAdventure Sat 23-May-26 14:22:53

It'd get on my nerves.if every sentence contained "love"

M0nica Sat 23-May-26 14:23:30

Where we live now, everyone, but everyone calls each other 'my lovely'. I love it and will start using the the term myself soon.

MarieElla Sat 23-May-26 14:25:31

I prefer it to Madam...
Madam is awful, aging and condescending!
Darling/love is endearing and gender neutral.

ViceVersa Sat 23-May-26 14:37:01

I think it depends on how it is used. I don't have a problem with it per se, unless it is being used in a condescending or patronising context. We have a receptionist at our GP practice who calls you darling or beautiful on the phone, and to be honest, it would grate on me, but she's actually the nicest and most helpful receptionist there, so I don't mind.

Clawdy Sat 23-May-26 14:41:44

MarieElla

I prefer it to Madam...
Madam is awful, aging and condescending!
Darling/love is endearing and gender neutral.

Exactly!