I have no objection to being addressed as darling or love except when it is on repeat! I recently met friends at a restaurant for lunch and was greeted by the front of house as hello darling. I said I was meeting friends and she said okay lovely lets see if we can find them, oh here they are darling. Taking our orders was the same we were all repeatedly addressed as darling or lovey, what happened to Madam? We felt that we were being treated as daft little old ladies, I may be little but am far from daft! Would you find this condescending?
80th birthday present inspiration- please


