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so what would you do?

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vampirequeen Tue 27-Nov-12 13:36:23

I would have intervened. I know the odds are it was harmless, as indeed it turned out to be, but when a child is involved you have to be careful.

My youngest daughter used to have the most terrible silent tantrums where she would just lay prostrate no matter where we happened to be. It was impossible to move her...how do toddlers suddenly manage to increase their body weight tenfold? So I would find a wall or something nearby to sit on and wait. What surprised me was how many people walked passed this apparently unconcious child? I rather liked it when people did stop and ask because at least it showed that they cared and also gave me someone to chat to which helped to pass the ten minutes or so that she would lay there until she became bored at the lack of attention and would get up as if nothing had happened lol.

absentgrana Tue 27-Nov-12 09:09:36

I would do the same as your friend I think.

A friend of mine was reported to the police when he was in the park with his grandson who was about two years old. The child didn't want to get off the swing and there was a bit of an altercation with much shouting and screaming. When the police arrived the small child, who hadn't been talking for very long, refused to have anything to do with them and my friend couldn't prove that he was the child's grandfather. Consequently, both were taken to the police station. It took ages to get hold of his wife to come and sort out the muddle. Fortunately, he's quite a philosophical man and reckoned that it was "better to be safe than sorry".

Ella46 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:41:59

Small, screaming children often don't tell you what's wrong, and you're just another stranger.

Ella46 Mon 26-Nov-12 19:39:33

Thing is, if you asked him, he would lie anyway. He's not going to admit it, is he?
So what do you do then?

NfkDumpling Mon 26-Nov-12 17:00:14

I would approach them as your friend did. Better to check than live with the guilt if .......

Anne58 Mon 26-Nov-12 15:46:22

I would like to think that I would be brave enough to do as your friend did, but it's hard to say. I think a lot would depend on how the man looked, and if there were other people around for backup, if it were needed.

Greatnan Mon 26-Nov-12 15:44:24

I would approach them and ask if everything was all right. I don't think I am physically brave, but I wouldn't hesitate if a child seemed to be in danger. I think most people would fear embarrassment but that is just the price you have to pay for looking out for children.
I can never forget the woman who saw the two boys abducting Jamie Bulger and accepted their statement that they were taking him to the police station because he was lost. She has to live with her failure to take action.

Barrow Mon 26-Nov-12 15:37:06

Just had an interesting telephone call from a friend. She was in a shopping precinct the other day when she saw a man dragging a small girl along the street. The girl was screaming that she didn't want to go and wanted her Mum, the man was ignoring her and not even speaking to her.

This caused my friend some alarm so she approached the man and asked if everything was OK - then bent down to talk to the child (intending to ask if the man was her Daddy). The girls mother then appeared and my friend explained that she was concerned that the child was being abducted. It transpired the man was the girls father and that she had had a tantrum in the middle of a shop and her father was taking her back to the car. My friend did think afterwards that if it had been an abduction the moment the little girl started screaming the man would probably have let her go and done a runner.

It got me wondering what I would do in that situation. I am not a brave person (if being a wimp were an Olympic sport I would win gold every time!) so I suggested to my friend that maybe I would just follow them and if he drove off with the girl would take the registration number. My friend pointed out that if I did that and it was an abduction, by the time the car had been traced by the police anything could have happened to the child.

So, what would you do?