horrendous row!!

celeb good advice above. Yes, it can all spiral out of control. I once felt I just wanted to walk out of the house and just keep walking, walking, walking away from everybody and never stop.
I'd say take glasses advice. Just give each other a big (((hug)))).

celeb Its the worst feeling isn't it when someone so close pushes all the buttons, they know how to hit the spot dont they!!! But its the person closest to you that you can say these hurtful things too.... but know they will stay around for the making up.
I think he will be feeling as bad if not worse than you.... go on give each other a hug and make up. {{{hug}}}

celebgran ((hugs)) for you and just to say that sometimes the men in our lives are not very good at showing emotions and that they don't fully understand the hurt we feel your DH is most prob hurting just as much but the matcho front they wear will not allow it to show through,take those harsh words with the pinch of salt they deserve have a hug together and start again. glamma xx

ANd your poor thumb and all. There are times when one wants to give a hug and a cuppa in person and this is one of them.

celebgran, you're hurting so much just now. When I was estranged for a very long time from my daughter (7 years), I felt sometimes as if I was going daft with despair. My DH seemed almost uncaring about the fact that she had left our lives..and I felt so alone with it all. I think he just felt that things were peaceful again and no more rows were going to happen because she just didn't have anything to do with us. I tried over and over again to get her back into my life, all to no avail, but she did eventually allow it to happen, although she still will have nothing to do with DH, and probably never will. All our sad things are made sadder at Christmas. Especially when children are involved. But we're here for you to talk to and to explain your feelings to. Take heart that sometime soon things may just change for the better, as they did for me. xx

Dear celeb how tough for you, after everything you've been through. You will get through this, I'm sure, but it hurts. ((hug))

celebgran It's a rotten time of year to feel sad and I do hope it gets better sooner rather than later.

Hurtful words are so much worse when they come from someone you love, and who loves you, aren't they? He's probably feeling just as bad, celebgran, especially about his accusation regarding your daughter.
I do hope things will be resolved between you very soon.

Oh celeb I'm sorry you are having such a miserable time. Here's a {{hug}}

We all say things in anger that we don't really mean; I think you're hurting because you know that he would know how much that accusation would hurt you..which makes it hurt even more. And you're not feeling well either. Can only offer a hug and a bit of understanding.