A new what-I-did-today thread

jeni I really felt for you with that post, I got what you meant straight away. Very true about mums! I have very mixed views about mine, basically emotionally caring, but so much other stuff in which in many ways were quite neglectful.
It helps to acknowledge that parents can be difficult people. As per Philip Larkin.

Ah! My children liked that poem! (Worrying)

My children love to quote that poem to me, cheeky lot! I empathise too, jeni. My parents had no emotional vocabulary - the four of us would joke that we were all treated fairly....with the same amount of indifference.

The only thing my parents wanted was that we succeeded academically!
I don't remember anything else but the continual grind of study, revision and exams.
I remember once when the daughter of a family friend 'had to get married', my mother told me she'd rather murder me than have that sort of shame brought on the family.
The only hobby I had was reading. As I was at boarding school, I didn't know anyone in the holidays.
Also my mother looked down on the local children and I was not allowed to mix with the ad they 'weren't our sort. And we're common!'

They are common! NOT US. GOD FORBID!

On the subject of parents f*****g you up, has anyone read 'The Glass Castle' by Jeannette Walls?

I think lots of people will empathise one way or another and, if it helps us to be different with our own, that must be a good thing.

My mother just seemed/seems to be permanently disappointed, and disapproving, of Dad, me and my elder brother. Youngest brother was the bees knees and still is. I wasn't really allowed to mix with the village children but had I great time if I ever achieved it.

I and mine mix with anyone if they're nice.
Back to my files!

I think my mum had a problem with me. I was a honeymoon conception - perhaps an intruder on her marriage. Of course this was never expressed and in every way she seemed a loving and attentive mother to all of us. However, she was envious of my education because she had to give up school prematurely and help at home. Nothing was ever expressed but I felt it. She said something incomprehensibly callous when DS2 was in SCBU after he was born and I found it very hard to forgive and even harder to forget. But she's been gone for 30 years and I have had to let it go. She had her reasons.

I'm feeling very virtuous. So far I've
Done the washing
Read 2 days files for next week
Assembled and put on oven a Lancashire hotspot!
Time to relax now with and GN

Fell over while carrying my archery rucksack, a picnic basket, a shoulder back and some target faces. My knee and my forehead broke my fall. I'm fine but for a very visible graze. Then a good day's archery including learning how to make a bowstring for a longbow and shooting six arrows with someone's newly restrung longbow. Kind of her to let me

shoulder bag

Sigh! I did read it through before posting.

Bet you had fun!

Love the idea of your hotspot, jeni!

Yes, I did, thanks jeni. Hmm, a bit of that Lnacashire hotspot would go down a treat!

I was going to remark on jeni's hotspot but thought it might be rude!

Hope you are ok Bags

Today I have been waiting for Mishap's baby!

Oh my goodness, Bags - that sounds really sore! .

Plaintively ' I did read it through! Just didn't notice. Honest mum!'

At least it was Lancashire * bags*

I expect it will be sore tomorrow, marelli, kitty, when I forget and apply my hairbrush a bit too vigorously (it's right next to my hairline), and the guy who applied a piece of micropore tape said to make sure I take the tape off in the right direction (skin flap, eek) . I think I'll just let it come off by itself! It wasn't a hard bump but I expect I was quite a spectacle tumbling about

jeni You and me both!

bags ouch bet the air was blue xxxx

jeni I don't want to patronise and will probably put size 10's in wrong place but totally get where you are coming from re mum,had 25 years of it,and passive aggressive with itxxxxxxxxlove nellie

Thanks. Still loved her though!
Insanity is inherited.

Yes I get that too loved her but didn't like her very muchxxxxxx.
Did read insanity is inherited...you catch from your children xxxx