What has happened to GN just lately?

I agree with your last comment harrigran and would also add that the length of time you have been a member shouldn't matter either. Everyone surely has the right to comment on whatever they choose, regardless of whether they were in at the start or just joined yesterday

Say away, Ella. I think you're spot on. I'm certainly aware of that in myself.

ella

That's how I read it Movedalot but I am accused so often of misinterpreting, misrepresenting and failing to understand even the simplest posts with the most basic vocabulary that I begin to wonder if I have dementia or dysexlia or some unnamed combination of the two.

Agreed, Ella.

If that is what they meant absent then I totally agree with them.

Movedalot Surely Jodi and Petallus were not saying it was wrong to stand up for another poster when that poster is being unfairly treated. They were saying quite the opposite – that it is wrong to leap to someone's defence automatically out of loyalty even when they are in the wrong. I was agreeing with them.

If I may say so, I think sometimes if you are feeling low or vulnerable for a particular reason, it is very easy to take remarks to heart and feel upset or hurt.
If you are feeling cheerful and confident things don't bother you in the same way.

Just saying

Greatnan was out walking yesterday; I expect she'll be doing the same today, weather permitting. I'm sure she'll pop up here soon as fresh as a daisy.

Sorry, can't name all the names but I have to agree with what Kali is saying. I disagree with those who think it is wrong to support another poster. If I feel that someone is being unjustly treated I feel it is important to stand up for them and will continue to do so. How lonely we would all feel when a poster has been unkind/misrepresented what we said/or otherwise been unfair.

I do believe that one person can start it and that walking away is not always an option. When someone has misinterpreted what I have said then I want to respond and make sure everyone has an opportunity to read the correction. If someone chooses to dislike me I want it to be based on what I have said and not on what someone else has said I said.

more, not ore.

petallus You and Jodi are so right about some posters automatically jumping to the defence of specific other posters regardless of what has actually been posted. in many instances, it looks as if they either haven't read or haven't understood a post but ignorance is no barrier. Loyalty is a fine characteristic but it can be taken too far.

glass Of course. That's ore than likely.

Jodi said ' I am a professional woman and am not used to this kind of playground behaviour ' Every Gransnetter is a valued member, whether you are professional or not should not make one iota of difference IMHO.

If JO7 keeps reincarnating at her current rate she will soon catch up with the 14th Dalai Lama.

greatnan may be having weather problems and have no internet.

I totally agree with Jodi, especially her very perceptive comment:

"It's not just the posters who seem to be always sniping, it's those who jump in to support them whether they are in the right or in the wrong that give them the power"

That is absolutely spot on.

Can't see anything changing anytime soon.

when I would guess that she's fed up with being jumped on almost before she has finished posting, almost always by the same group of posters. (Is a group a clique or is that different?) Even strong-minded women can get pissed off. She's still registered so presumably she's just lying low.

Come back GREATNAN. Or I will take over the jokes thread. And that wouldn't be good. No one would laugh.

"Tegan" (recently adopted by another poster) definitely leaves a good trail. (being a racehorse)

The numbers thing was Bags's idea and a very good one too.

Agree about sometimes necessary to name change because of being 'outed' and suchlike.

I've realised that people read posts in different ways and I'm sure that can cause problems [not that it can be avoided but that we could think again about what people have written]. I actually look on gransnetters as people that I feel I know and tend to interpret what they say judging by things they've said in the past, and that can make me read things into what they say [or miss things out] which puts a different slant on what they've said. We're also not journalists [thank goodness] or politicians [even worse ] so we sometimes say things the way we would in a normal conversation, press the enter button and realise it doesn't sound right, or could be misinterpreted [I do wish there was an edit button]. Once a misunderstanding has arisen it almost takes on a life of it's own and then it's easy to feel under some sort of personal attack, although that isn't actually happening. I hope jodi reconsiders because, like me she'll start looking at something she's desperate to reply to and can't . Gransnet can be the best of places and it can be the worst, but isn't that life [and forums] in general. And the support and camaraderie on here is second to none .

absent Yes, information leaks out in different ways, doesn't it?

I am missing Greatnan. Where are you?

See Kali's post on the dieting forum on January 18th

Well you certainly have j07 but I have lost track of quite how many changes you have made. However, are you getting lazy by just changing the number now? If you do it again – and you probably will – maybe you should choose a name that keeps us guessing even if it's only for a couple of minutes.

There are times when name changes without a trail are fully justified. For example, I think there have been a couple of instances of posters being severely criticised and even bullied by their families so they changed their names.

As people tend to have a distinctive style to their postings and it is difficult to keep up a prolonged pretence of being someone else, it's usually possible to tell who they were in a previous incarnation – even when they lie through their teeth about being a new poster.

Kali explained her change of name when she first posted under it and gave a hint of her previous incarnation. Now - just think which frequent poster hasn't been heard from recently?