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Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 13:07:53

I don't think I ever have and I'm not very tolerant of it. DH used to but we seem to have got past it. DiL2 did some years before they got married but doesn't any more. Is it something we grow out of? Or maybe it is just the way some people cope when they haven't dealt very well with a situation? I would love to hear other people's take on this.

Grannyeggs Sun 20-Jan-13 13:12:49

I am not a sulker more fiery and like potential rows or disagreements settled quickly and head on. DH takes offence and goes silent, which I see as sulking. Actually as we go on in life together, I try and be less confrontational, and he less sulky. I find it tiring being so reasonable sometimes. blush

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 13:16:53

I'm sure there was a thread about this not long ago...
Will have to have a look.

Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 13:17:57

GE grin

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 13:18:19

Oh no, it was about husbands and how they sometimes 'stonewall' or sulk.

Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 13:19:46

Ana then this may end up being pretty similar. I must have missed that one.

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 13:21:15

Just call me 'thread-killer'...confused

Ella46 Sun 20-Jan-13 13:34:10

Can we abbreviate that to 'killer'? grin

Ella46 Sun 20-Jan-13 13:34:54

Sorry, wrong thread! Just came off the other one blush

Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 13:43:01

Well at least you are not sulking Ana and Ella - sounds like a girl band!

POGS Sun 20-Jan-13 13:56:29

Nope. I would rather tell someone what I think of them and hopefully move on. Not that that is always a very successful move. confused

I think sulkers tend to have a bit of a nature, 'it's all about me'. I think sulking keeps a situation going on for longer and hence the sulker is trying to, hopefully in their mind, get the other person to feel guilty. Either that or they are possibly in the wrong and won't admit it and hope the other person caves in and apologises to them.

Smoluski Sun 20-Jan-13 14:22:48

Slow to burn,quick to cool...can't stand atmospheres and unfinished business,get it out in the open and deal with itxx

Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 14:22:56

I think you have summed that up pretty well POGS. It will be interesting to see if anyone has a different perspective.

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 14:23:44

Ella, why have you gone black? confused

annodomini Sun 20-Jan-13 14:25:21

Never!

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 14:27:00

Oh, so have you, anno...

glammanana Sun 20-Jan-13 14:28:40

I don't sulk never have but I do like my own space and to be left alone sometime's which some people who don't know me well could mistake for sulking.

Ana Sun 20-Jan-13 14:30:38

Yes, I'm the same, glamma. Not sulking, just recharging the batteries.

whenim64 Sun 20-Jan-13 14:44:51

No, don't sulk.

j07 Sun 20-Jan-13 14:47:49

I think you have a deep and meaningful type of brain to be able to sulk. I can't do it. #shortmemory

annodomini Sun 20-Jan-13 14:53:27

Yes, I went black for very good reasons which I am not going to talk about at the moment. I might go blue again when I have done some editing.

Movedalot Sun 20-Jan-13 14:54:13

Oh don't say that j07 that would mean I wasted all that time teaching himself not to do it. I have never thought of him as 'deep and meaningful' I'll stick with POGS

Ariadne Sun 20-Jan-13 14:59:00

No, I don't sulk. Best to say something and clear the air. Besides which, I have difficulty keeping quiet at the best of times!

j07 Sun 20-Jan-13 15:03:00

I think with daughter-in-laws and mother-in-laws it can be down to the younger woman feeling unsure of herself. I seem to remember I did it once or twice when I was very young. My poor mum-in-law! shock (got on with her very well usually!)

Grannyknot Sun 20-Jan-13 15:07:48

Nah. Never did either. Couldn't be bothered.