Renewing vows

A woman afterme own heart!

Although we have not been down the 'Renewing Vows' route we did, on our Silver wedding buy me a new wedding ring. We had had a bit of a rough patch a few years ago and although nothing much actually happened we just sort of stopped really communicating. Then we went through hell caring for a relative and having come through the worst went and splurged on a lovely new wedding ring for me as a way of marking our survival. No ceremony no great whoo ha.....just a kind of acknowledgement that we were now on a new page.

I think its horses for courses - just as I see some of the things younger brides go in for as a bit of a waste of time and money. Its personal choice and if you want to mark keeping together with a party and some carefully chosen words, then go for it. I'll save my pennies for another Cruise!

Sounds very civilised and enjoyable Mishap.

Not my kind of thing really - we made our vows and have stuck with them for 42 years. They will not mean any more by saying them all over again.

We had a lovely party for our 40th with family and close neighbours and friends, when we all went for a walk in a wood and then had a meal in a barn with a classical guitarist quietly playing live for us. I made a very short speech (OH has PD and this is difficult for him) to thank all the people there for their kindness over the years and that was that! Very nice.

We renewed our vows after 25 years, just quietly in church, where we attend, and then at home with some friends and family. Just because it seemed a good way to celebrate our silver wedding - so many don't make it this far these days - at least so it seems. We've just had our 35th anniversary - and had a take away and a bottle of wine!! Might party for our Ruby but no more vows - at least not till the 50 - God willing!!

Galen That seems right somehow.

I fell on our boat and had to have new wedding ring.
We arranged a simple ceremony with just us and the rector who blessed the ring.we also renewed our vows.
At that time my husband had had a kidney transplant and we were also saying Thankyou for the extra years together this bought us!

I didn't cry at my real wedding, but I did at this very simple ceremony!

Indeed we are, butty. I wish it were shareable

B and Absent - I couldn't think of anything I have wanted more.
How fortunate you both were, and are.

I think that I'd like us to remember what we promised; we do. But, if people want a part. Go for it! We have some great parties for occasions that matter to us, and other people do the same. Bless us all!

When DD was planning her wedding. I was a member of a wedding forum. One of the ladies was planning her blessing. It was more lavish than some of the young brides plans. Full white dress 5 bridesmaids etc. The point ???
Friend had blessing for 10yr anniversary. Normal smart clothes and a few family and friends back to theirs.
If I ever considered it (can't see it happening) that would be the way for me.

bluebell for both of you

Oh Bags - that was my mum's legacy to me! And I've tried to do the same with my DD who has some very hard health issues to live with but remains confident, calm, loving and thoughful. Forgive burst of maternal pride but she does have a lot to live with but she's always there for others (probably because of that)

I mean cheers, several!

Cheer, absent

Yours and mine both Bags. Here's to fathers.

On which note I feel inclined to reiterate (renew?) my firm belief that teaching me how to resist silly peer group pressure and not mind "being different" is one of the best things my father did. I remain eternally grateful to him.

I suppose I just feel sorry for them - I still think a lot of young women don't have enough real sense of self-worth to resist pressures of these kinds. I can't help but feel that celeb culture has a lot to answer for within some groups.

Oh I agree bluebell but they are put under pressure for so many things and have to make their own decisions.

They have to make choices and imo a lot of them have much stonger opinions than I had when I was young. I do meet a lot of very sensible young people who are confident in their own abilities to make decisions. Of course I meet to odd one who is easily let too.

To be fair, I think some young people are put under real pressure about attending hen parties and weddings - it can be hard to say no - there's a lot of marketing out there. Things have changed a lot since our generation was getting married

I suppose jane that this is the choice they make. It didn't apply to mine, she was and still is very sensible and they have bought a house and are doing it up. The one who is getting married next year is also sensible and DS3 already has a house so they don't need to worry about that.

IMO the feckless will be so one way or another, be it hen nights or something else. I don't have an awful lot of sympathy for those who attend something they either don't want to go to or can't afford but that might be because my own DSs and their OHs have more sense!

Moved Hen parties just seem to me a wild extravagance, when we hear that young couples struggle to save for the deposit on a house, and themn struggle to pay the mortgage afterwards.
I read recently too that many young women resent the pressure put on them to attend, and fork out a lot of money to do so.

I love an excuse for a party. What is better than getting together with family and friends and celebrating anything you like? If that includes renewing vows anyone who has a problem with it doesn't need to attend.

Had a great day out for DiL2's hen party and will do whatever DS3's fiancee wants to do for her hen do. Why not?

Life is all too short to put a dampner on any kind of celebration.

Hear's to partying

I suppose ginny the reason is to confirm you still feel the same!!

some friends of ours had a big church blessing, and we OH AND Me felt how silly they not religious in any way and it ws just excuse to dress up but why not if it floats your boat!! Also we knew the husband not been that faithful but still if it worked for them they still together!!

Whatever rocks your boat Ruthdpl.